Need some pointers

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@libranrulz

I don’t think you should just be yourself, instead try to be your best self. I think your decision to wear shalwar kamiz is nice and it shows culture. If you don’t mind then cover your head with the dupatta, I mean what is there to lose. I think they already know by now that you work and are a professional and they are ok with it so that shouldn’t be a big deal.

As far as talking and everything else is concerned, try to listen more and talk less. I am sure they have more than a few questions that they would want to ask you so in either case you would probably be the one talking more. Do not act shy/reserved because people can tell fakeness pretty easily. Just be yourself and answer questions to the best of your ability. What a lot of people do wrong is that they just concentrate on the adults and answer their questions or ask them one or two things. Instead try to involve the younger generation too and ask them questions about their skools and studies. People seem to apprieciate that a lot more and it gives a sense that you bond well with the whole family.

As far as asking the guy any questions is concerned, I think his grilling was done when he came to your place. You should have asked bulk of your questions then. If you still have a few questions to ask them yeah go ahead and ask but don’t start grilling him there.

Hope it helps

Thanks LibranRulz you actually understood my dilemma very well. I’ll definitly try to follow the suggestions you had given.

Just to clarify I have never met that guy. He and his family got my family’s information from some rishta agency in Pakistan so they went and had met them, at that time I was here in US.

It would have been really easier if I would have been there in presence of both of our families, now I just feel weird on going over to them alone