need some advice

Lifestyle Relationships
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i like your 'second step' the best.... this way not only u can get urself busy (and more fruitful for your future) but can also stop giving them the money and save them for tution fees and etc.

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chamali...
its really difficult to make a guy realise that his parents are taking advantage of him...you have a very big job on your hands
just one concern: if you quit your job and stay at home the whole day with your FIL and MIL, are they going to make your life hell with their tanay and their attitude?
are you sure you will be able to maintain your sanity and not respond?

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do not lie to him yaar. thats not good. at all.

Urdu Word Game
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is this Chamali420?

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yeah the first few weeks will be difficult until I finish my GMAT exam but then I will start college full time so I will be out of the house most of the day. I will make sure I plan the classes around my husbands sechdule so my MIL doesnt get to fill his ears... Lets see what happens. And I am not the type to talk back to my elders.... its just not in me, so I know I will never do that inshah-Allah... No matter what they say to me it is beacuse of them I have HIM, I wont forget that.

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^You're an awesome human being. It takes a patient, understanding and caring person to say what you said above. You seem like a cultured and well brought up person and it's too bad that your inlaws don't realize that...... yet. Inshallah I hope they all do someday and it works out for you :)

The Random Thread
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chamali im not saying you raise your voice at them but i think its important to get your point across, though in a gentle but firm tone...just because they are elders it doesnt mean you shouldn't communicate what you feel to them...

:)

anyway, best of luck

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Step one completed! I told my husband the truth to why I need to leave the job and left my job. please pray for me now I need it more then ever.

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What was his reaction?

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No I don't think that it is - Chamali420 is ma'sha allah in Mecca/Medina right now having performed Hajj.

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Inshallah everything will be fine. It is great that you have decided not to lie. Be straightforward with the situation, even if the first few steps are difficult, in the end it will work out for you.