Need marriage advice

[Ashy2010]

Re: Need marriage advice

@fuurkan

@Ashy2010 Thanks. I think you summarized my situation very well. That is exactly what I am working on right now: getting my thinking and criteria clear Being a perfectionist (and knowing that I am far from it), I generally tend to start with an almost impossible ideal and then work towards something that’s real.

You don’t need a working wife to financially support you and you don’t want a doctor wife just for the sake of getting one. Thus you can try to relax your criteria to include other educated non-doctor girls also based on what other things you are looking for in a girl. Prioritise your criteria and identify on which factor you are willing to compromise (e.g. will an older girl be acceptable to you if she meets all your other requirements?). I know a family whose son is now 36 and they have this strict requirement of doctor (along with other requirements) and they are not willing to compromise on this ‘doctor’ factor although they found many good non-doctor yet educated girls who met all their other requirements.

First clear your thinking and then discuss this with your family to make necessary revisions in the criteria according to their requirements. Often disagreements arises with the family when they start considering girls.