I don't think it should be a problem, even if she wasn't completely cured, everyone deserves to be loved. Personally, I think it all comes down to personality and how she's dealing with the disease. People who have gone through such disease are usually much better lovers than those who haven't because they have come closer to seeing such a beautiful thing taken away from them. They are more appreciative of such opportunities.
I am a medical person and my HONEST opinion is that i would be concerned about the ability of having children (or it was an important issue for me when i was younger), for some chemotherapeutic drugs do affect fertility, if thats not a problem then it will not be an issue.
i suffer from a thyroid condition too but thank Allah its not serious-had it for 4+ yrs…can it realy affect your fertility in future?..i neva knew that
Thyroid dysfunction and thyroid cancer are two very different things.
Thyroid dysfunction is fairly common amongst medical conditions and occurs when your body produces too little or too much thyroid hormone (due to different reasons) and eventually you take synthetic thyroid (in the form of medication) and as long as the dose is appropriate and results in normal levels the synthetic should act the same as what our body produces naturally so it should not affect fertility. Untreated thyroid (too high or too low) may affect fertility. But otherwise, benign thyroid disease is usually just a chronic problem with chronic treatment available.
Thyroid cancer is actually quite uncommon but has a very favorable prognosis especially compared to other cancers. Obviously, each case is different but surgical removal of the thyroid gland is usually part of the treatment and if the cancer has not spread, surgery = cure (because the cancer causing cells are supposed to be gone). However, because it’s cancer and there’s something wrong on the cellular level it could recur and metastasize (spread to other organs). Also the risk factors that were there initially are still present and having one kind of cancer may increase your risk of other cancers … A commonly used treatment for thyroid cancer is radio-iodine therapy and this can temporarily affect fertility (~ 4 months so women are discouraged from getting pregnant for at least 4 months sometimes up to a year after this radiation treatment). However, it usually does not affect long term fertility and most women can get pregnant after just fine.
This sounds like it’s of great concern to you and as a health care professional, I would advise you to ask your doctor to give you more detailed info about how much of an impact this may actually have on your long term fertility – it may be exaggerated in your mind and knowing some facts & figures may put you at ease and help avoid any unnecessary guilt/fear you might be feeling …
As far as how somebody else would view this - it's doesn't really matter what we all think - it's how the groom to be views it - and that depends a lot on how much he knows about the condition (which you can help with) and what kind of values/priorities he has (which really comes down to his own personality/character and no matter what you tell him he will think a certain way).... Anyhow, all the best to you :)
ok this is wht i think. If someone who does propose to you and knows that you had a type of cancer and your cured then i completely thing he has no right to say no to the rishta just cause you HAD it. Your cured Alhumdulillah and we personally dont choose things for ourselves Allah gave it to us and he cures us. Thats exactly what happen in your case. mashallah everythings better now, and im sure if right now whether ur having trouble with rishtas and what not. Trust me Allah has someone there for you who will accept you FOR WHO YOU ARE! and will love you unconditionally.
I can say easily that I will not have any problem but if conferred with same situation I am sure most (or many of us) will have a problem with it (or at least will think twice about it). At least it will bug them.
Example is AIDS. Everyone knows AIDS does not spread by meeting AIDS patients (basically its not contagious) but most of the DESIS just avoid getting together with AIDS patients
If someone loves you unconditionally, then that obviously means that cancer will not remove their love for you. However, in the rishta process, we don't love anyone yet so we can only look at someone with a cold objective lens. Honestly, if I was a man i would have concerns about my wife's fertility and whether the condition is genetic or just a medical fluke. Anyway, see what the long-term implications of having a T.C. diagnosis in the past are, and then make your decision.
