I got married Last July, my wife is due in 3 months, it is our first child, now there is some behavioral changes are taking over my wife, i know it is part of the game, what i need to know is, what can i do to cheer her life, she i going through many disorders, her likes and dislikes have changed and now she is totally un-predictable, i want to comfort her but i have no idea what to do…any advice, she has started her 7th month…
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What a nice husband you are! Theres good news and bad news here...bad news is that you wont wont likely change her much with all the hormones raging around in her body and the discomfort of being pregnant. Good news is that once baby is born, hormones will return to normal levels and even out and your wife will be her old self again.
But please, keep on doing what you're doing! She is going to remember forever how supportive you were to her during this time. If there are any specific complaints she has that you want to try to help her with, let us know and maybe we can help.
Best of luck and congrats to you!
Can you be more specific about what has changed?
Like every thing, she is too emotional, yesterday she was crying because she couldn't find a pair of shoes, she suddenly wakes up in the middle of the night, wanting to eat something we don't have, she got this craze for meat, which she never liked ( though good for me)
What a nice husband you are! Theres good news and bad news here...bad news is that you wont wont likely change her much with all the hormones raging around in her body and the discomfort of being pregnant. Good news is that once baby is born, hormones will return to normal levels and even out and your wife will be her old self again.
But please, keep on doing what you're doing! She is going to remember forever how supportive you were to her during this time. If there are any specific complaints she has that you want to try to help her with, let us know and maybe we can help.
Best of luck and congrats to you!
Just want to know what is she accepts me to do for her another mentioned to reply quoted to Sahar02 ...
Your help is much appreciated..
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If it's that kind of stuff, then definitely do as Mama of 3 suggested. It's not an easy few months for you either, but I think the best thing you can do is be kind, supportive and obliging to her -- even when she's driving you crazy. I don't think you'll be able to change her because the hormones are in control. As Mama of 3 said, she'll be back to normal a little after the pregnancy.
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^^ Well i guess i am being supportive ( imagine me giving up complete match innings to fetch her something she wanted ), but is there any other thing which can ease her a bit, something any women wants at this point of time!!!!
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When you're pg and have a craving for some kind of food, its more than just wanting to eat it, its almost like you're being driven to eat it and cannot rest till you do lol! I never like sweets but when pg, I had to have this dark choc cake or dark choc ice cream or everyone in the house dove for cover.
And the hormone thing....ok so gals get a monthly fluctuation of hormones and this shows sometimes right? They call it PMS and we can sometimes get emotional during a regular monthly cycle. Anyway, when pregnant, the hormones increase tens of thousands of times!!! So you can imagine it can be tough to handle. It has nothing to do with you or what you do (or don't do), its just a matter of dealing with these raging hormones.
You're doing exactly the right things. Just hang in there. And maybe stock up on meat.
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You sound like a great husband. I'm sure she appreciates everything you do for her.
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Some time she does and most of the time, specially last few weeks, she blames me for every thing wrong in the world!!! and i am clueless... but yet i managed to keep my senses.. iam grate full to both of you for telling me that this is NORMAL, otherwise i was bit worried...
Some time she does and most of the time, specially last few weeks, she blames me for every thing wrong in the world!!! and i am clueless... but yet i managed to keep my senses.. iam grate full to both of you for telling me that this is NORMAL, otherwise i was bit worried...
Women often get moody when they are pregnant.. it's normal, you will see the change the moment she'd hold a baby in her arms... so just don't argue back or say something to hurt her. She has an excuse to be like that.. but you don't. So just give it some time.
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Lol it wasnt too long ago i went through the same thing with my husband. I knew i was mean to him and rude at times but like you, ALhamdulillah he was patient with me. He knows me well so he would be quiet at times and sometimes he would just do as i asked. It got worse after i gave birth but he still remained patient. He offers his shoulder when i feel like crying and when i need space, he leaves me alone.
I am sure you are doing the best you can, so keep doing it. Just remember that this is not going to last forever, plus your wife is going through a lot of changes and she must be getting uncomfortable now. Dont take her rants personally, its not you, its the hormones talking. She cant help it.
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dude, it's called pregnancy.
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hey if she blames u den just take it...
in in one ear and out da other...
she dun mean it...
hang in there for 3 months, InshaAllah all will be ok after that.
den you two can laugh bout it ;)
it sounds like you are being there for her as much as you can.
and da fact u come here and ask advice proves that :)
Bless you, you're a good person.
Oh yeah every now and again tell her how beautiful she is and how happy and blessed you are she is carying your child.
Good luck, wish you both the best. Let us know how it goes.
My prayers are with you.
Peace.
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Thank u all for ur advice & Support
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ur most welkom.
hope it helpd ya out.
gud luk :)
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awww hannibal u r such a sweet husband... and so caring. keep being urself. i m sure at the back of her mind she appreciates u way too much.. but not enuff to admit it i guess ;) hehe... i agree with all the advice given to you. just make sure you keep reminding her how beautiful she is and how blessed and lucky u r to have a wife like her... and plan ur future together.. as in how ur life will b after baby... dun flatter her.. just genuinely compliment her.. as and when necessary only. keep up the gud work dude!
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You received a lot of sensible advice. Your wife's entire body is changing and she's been going through this for months now .... just continue being patient. Just cause she's moody is no excuse for you to be rude, not that you have been. Please don't expect her to just snap back once she has the baby in her arms. It can take anywhere up to 6 months for her to get back to normal (meaning for the hormones to return to normal) after delivery. It is different for every woman.
You are indeed a very caring husband. She is lucky to have you. :)
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be truthfully and genuinely always honest and kind to her. indicate love by your thanks to her for her strength to endure new motherhood. be her support throughout and raise a good a good child together. never leave the mom to be the tough one with the child and never be an absent father when the child is born.
congratualtions.
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massages always help :k:
if she likes meat (she sounds like me, i dont eat meat but during pregnancy thats all i wanted).. neway why not keep a dish in the freezer for when she does have those cravings? my hubz tried to have watermelon readily available for me…
Maybe, just make her feel beautiful and loved… that always helped me. Even when i looked like a whale the hubz said i looked beautiful and was not fat :halo:
God bless you… and all hubbies for the support during those 9-10 odd months