Stardust ... complications are also considered a real test of someones determination ... agar tumhara fiance abhi he say iss tarha ka attitude dikha raha hai .. and talking about you working only as a teacher if you both go to pakistan ... then i would personally also feel not good about it and try to get rid of it .... usko perwah nahi to why are behaving like this? besides ... ye kya baat hui k he doesnt want to marry someone jo uski qualification k peechay pera ho? he FAILED his exams ... and he wants to move to pakistan .... is he incapable of facing hardships? and do you want such a husband? he just sounds like a real insecure man to me ... you can also say to him that you want a husband who is fully capable of taking care of you .. *and its not about whether he is already a lawyer or not ... its about what signs he is already showing of success! my parents always say k is say koi farq nahi perta k abhi banday k paas kya hai aur kya nahi ... farq iss say perta hai k how much determination and progress he is showing in his work to make his future secure for himself and his family .... kyun is sab say ziada zururi hai k banday ki personality kaisi hai ... * and i understand by what you mean k you dont want to be single anymore ... but darling believe me .. single is way better than a screwed up relationship ... listen to what your parents are saying ... look at the situation from a 3rd party perspective ... not from your own nucleus and not just from your heart! use your brain and make a wise decision ... itna asaan b nahi hai is tarha uth k pakistan ja k rehna 3 ya whatever many years! fail hota rahay ga to kya karo gi ... 3 saal baad you'd be like kahan phas gayi !!! you also work on your career ... ussay kaho jayay khud pakistan ... parhay .. aur yahan tum apna career thik karo ... aur jab wo wapis aa jayayga ... to shadi ker leingay! ... you dont want his degree! but you want security! and finance is part of it! and you cant ignore the fact k professional careers depend on degrees and networking!
i agree with much of farrah's post, especially the bolded bit.
my father says the exact same thing, that it doesn't matter whether someone is educated or not, what matter is that they are hard-working, determined to make a success and don't waste a single day thinking and not doing.
i didn't consider that point before but now it's been highlighted, it's very important from your perspective to wait until he has achieved something. he either needs to start passing his exams or decide that education is not for him and do something else which he puts his all into, to provide for his wife and family.
also, does he not have a previous education? he's almost 30? what has he been doing all this time?