Jr. Is now eight months and still not sleeping through the night. Gets up every two hours and wants to be bf. I have tried getting hubby to ignore him and let him put himself back to sleep but hubby gets mad and picks him up. Jr doesn’t even feed, just gets his comfort at the breast and instantly falls asleep this goes on constantly. And thing us waking up every two hours disrupts my sleep and the whole day I am lethargic and useless. I just want 6 hours of sleep straight.
I have tried clusterfeeding him from 4pm onwards and giving him pureed veggies for dinner so he is full but it is the same story. What do I do? During the day When Jr is sleepy I let him cry it out a bit and he falls asleep just fine just that I cannot do that at night. Hubby can’t stand him crying.
Last feedings are done in a quiet environment I have tried aost everything. Massage and bath as well but none of it has worked.
Jr has been exclusively bf, do you think introducing formula would help? If yes, how does one go about buying formula?
This is exactly what Bunny was doing around 8-10 mnths. He is aware that he is separated from you, and does not want to be. Teething may also be waking him up.
Try soothing him back to sleep with a paci or just hold him till he's drowsy, and then put him back down. But honestly, sometimes I would give up and lie her down with me, so we could all het some sleep.
My son did not sleep through the night and even now he gets up atleast couple of times but now I just pat him back to sleep. (He is 2 now)
When he was younger, I was given the suggestion to give him formula, thinking he might be hungry and that is why he gets up so much.
I was working, he was given formula during day but I bf him when I got back from work. I also thought that since my supply may not be enough he is hungry but giving him formula was worst than bf. He would not be able to burp and would be gassy and got up even more and spat milk.
If your son falls asleep right after he is given a breast, he may not be hungry and just need reassurance. I doubt formula will help you.
Also it took me sometime to train my son to get back to sleep by only patting and no bottle or anything. Kids get used to whatever they are soothed with, be it breast or paci or bottle.
It will take some time and patience to get him out of the habbit. Initially it will be tough and more sleeplessness for you but in the end it will work, hopefully.
My husband also was not very co-operative when it came to not giving my son bottle at night. He wanted to give him bottle so he would go back to sleep fast. I told him not to interfere and let me work on this alone.
There must be some other way he soothes down, when he gets up do that and try not to give in unless and until it becomes impossible to sooth him and put him back to sleep. While I was trying I did eventually give him a bottle in the start as he would just not calm down but I reduced the amount of milk. He will eventually learn that he is not going to get bf at night.
Does ure husband want him to not cry cuz it disturbs his own sleep or cuz he doesnt want his baby to cry, Being a soft parent?
If its the former case, try sleep training him in a sep room if u guys have One. He is not getting up cuz heis hungry, Just wants Reassurance. And a comfort feed. My son did this too. I went military on him and told his very sensitive dad to shut it. It took me a week of very bad nights, but we r sleeping soundly ever since. The kid needs To know he wont be getting anything after his night feed.
U can start off by patting him back to sleep....he will get Up a lot in between...dont give in....finally when he wont stop crying, give him your breast....slowly work your way towards a longer gap during night feeds and soon stop all together when u have worked ure way from night to early morning. Junior will realize he isnt getting fed all that much and soon will stop asking for a comfort feed.
Its definarely not easy, especially with a fiesty baby, but if u remain steadfast, it will work out in the end. The man u need to be firm with too.... Its more imp for URE health that junior learn a routine than for him to be comforted at odd hours. If he keps at it, ask husband dear to comfort him instead. ;)
Seems like dads are the softies here :D I have the same problem at night, when the little one wakes up and I let him cry it out a little so that he can fall back asleep, hubby dearest doesn't like it. He wants to pick him up and rock him back to sleep. It's okay to a point, but the baby also needs to learn to fall back asleep himself without having to be rocked.
Honestly, I always let mine cry for 5 minutes before going in to check on her. And sometimes she would go back to sleep herself. But as she's gotten older (she's 14 months now), she is so much more aware of where she is and where she wants to be, and crying it out does not work for her. I have sat there for over an hour waiting for her to stop or exhaust herself. No luck. I end up angry and upset and so does she. There are other ways to do it, and you have to figure out what works for you. Try the Baby Whisperer books too. But mainly it's about repeatedly soothing and then laying him back down.
same problem was there wth my daughter n i asked my doctor 4 help...... doctor recommended that in the evening hours like from 5 to 10 dont give baby full feed n at 10 give baby full feed n at make ur baby wake up atleast 3 hrs before sleep in this way baby vl sleep atleast 6 to 7 hours n its working 4 my baby since she is only 1 n half month so she asks 4 milk after every 4 hour now
n discuss wth ur huby that dont carry ur baby at once sometimes babies make these crying sounds during sleep let wait 4 atleast 5 mins. i know its difficult n i was having same problem my huby also used 2 say i cant c my baby crying but now he understands thnk god
It is difficult to see your baby crying for both father and mother but you have to teach these haits to your baby too. Just like eventually you have to start disciplining as they grow older and that is very hard too.
My son slept in the same room too. As khawateen said, I told my husband that either I can try and let our son learn to go back to sleep without a feed
or he will get up and make him a bottle everytime son gets up and asks for it. (Before that we were taking turns getting up). He agreed right away. lol
Only you know if you can threat your husband like me :) or explain everything to him showing articles and quoting examples.
As sahar said, it does get frustrating sometimes because even after learning to get back to sleep sometimes baby may find it difficult for any reason.
You said, you already do that during the day so I think the only thing you need to do is to make your husband understand the need of it.
It gets more difficult when they grow old and realize that crying or whimpering is the key to getting their way.