need advise and help

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Re: need advise and help

If you want to save the marriage:

Never involve anyone and even tell your parents, till its really over your head.

It is big no no in marriage relation and creates more complex issues for the future if such secrets are not kept among spouses.

Men should not run to their families/ friends/ mom/dad and women should also try to be secretive. (up to a limit off course)

Your scenario is not such that you do those things or leave him.

Be tactful.

If someone is 'big enough' or 'independane enough' to love and marry then one has to be able to deal with these domestic issues. Not a sarcasm just an advise to be responsible.

Start by being extra careful. With time people may change. Just be alert what can trigger the problem and avoid that.

Create a light environment at home.

Do not answer back when he is angry.

Be smart and do good things in general to earn respect and confidence of your spouse.

Yes it is wrongul for him to slap you. No argument there.

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Re: need advise and help

Few points you need to consider;

1) Is he and the relationship worth the hardwork and hardship you will have to go thru in order to try and make this work?.

2) Let's hope you guys are able to make amends in this relationship, but will you truly be able to forget and forgive the abuse you went thru?.

3) Have you tried and see if any of his reaction is a cause of your behavior? I am sorry but i refuse to believe that any sane person would come in to your house and be entertained as a sister and yet leave with such negative remarks. So either 1) She is not normal OR 2) Your behavior is not as sisterly as it seems to you.

You don't have to answer me or anyone here but yourself because after all this is YOUR life.

Goodluck.

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Re: need advise and help

Psychopath
since its love marriage, you will have to deal it yourself...