Need Advice, Rishta and Compromises

[Paheli00]

Re: Need Advice, Rishta and Compromises

@hir666

I have grown to be very independent and have made myself mentally prepared to lead single life, I am currently preparing for step exams and planning to move to US.

He conveyed clear message that he will not be taking any financial help from us, in any way. he is the oldest one, with responsibility to three sisters and parents, who will be relying on him for long time. He was looking for house wife, he cleared.

my concern:
i will end up giving up on my profession, with typical housewife life, in country like qatar.

No one here can tell you whether or not you should make this compromise. This rishta changes your entire future so this is something only YOU can decide. You are a doctor and had already planned on moving to the U.S. You wrote you are “very independent”. Do you think you’ll be happy living in Qatar as a housewife? You have worked very hard for you career so far…are YOU ok with giving it up completely?

This guy is financially responsible for his parents and his THREE sisters. Does his salary allow him to do this AND give you the type of lifestyle you want in the future? As a housewife, all your needs/wants/luxuries will need to be paid from his salary.

@hir666

he did mention some of his struggles as well which my father didnt disclosed to us.

I’m confused about this. What struggles? Why did your dad not share EVERYTHING the guy told him? If you’re considering this guy as a future husband…then you have every right to know ANYTHING that your dad has found out b/c at the end of the day, you are the who will spend the rest of your life with the guy.

Also, you need to find out more about his family’s lifestyles and their expectations from this guy’s wife. You said the guy appeared very westernized which is “very different from his family”. Does that mean his family is conservative? Will his parents/3 sisters expect the same level of conservativeness form the new wife?