im getting in a month …here i saw many threads with so many prblms after marriage …so im afaraid of getting married that how will be my life after marriage?..how to take care and deal with husband …becoz my fiance has a moody nature ,and he stop talking with me if i something like zid etc …so im worried about all this …
every1 says he will change after marriage but i dont think so ..we both dont have any issue regarding trust or anything we both just dont understand each other … he want me to accept what he says etc and i have prblm to not accept what he says so then we both stop talking etc…
so i want to know how to deal with husband with moody nature and how to understand each other? i know i have to compromise husbands never do this …
why do husbands never compromise? what husbands do you know? i'm sorry but you need to not see it as your husband being the "issue" that you need to deal with rather the fact that you both should probably sit down and talk about what you want from life and each other. it's pretty simple, if you don't like his values and he doesn't like yours then move on.. don't rely on the fact he will change after marriage. he won't.
but hey, you're welcome to not listen to a person who has never been married before.
Ummmm yeah ...husbands need to compromise too. If he's just your fiancé, there's time to leave.
Ziddi, stops talking, doesn't compromise.....is he a toddler?
Please find someone with the same mental level as you who knows how to talk stuff out and compromise on issues.
By the way, if you notice, many (but not all) of the marriage problems on this forum aren't really "problems". They are just people being trivial, childish, and uncooperative.
Talk to your man, be best friends with his mother, ignore trivial issues. Life isn't that horrible.
i cant move i told my mother also about this she said we cant move on everything is finalize ......im worried about future life ....he is not aggresive, not abusive if he dont like any thing which i said he just keep quite and stop talking with me ....i cant tell to any 1 i just leave all this ALLAH i m thinking i will do my best rest ajar will by ALLAH becoz we cant accept this from human.... main issue is he want to get married in jan but his father didnt agree and finalize date for april...he leave alone in khi and family in other city ...
He is not like this ...he used to be so much caring and concern about me and want to get maried soon ...but dont know what happen know.... and yeah he is doing 2 jobs for this marriage becoz his father said he has to arrange ....may be due to many issue he is like this ...
Have you sat down and talked to your fiance about his behaviour? I understand that he must be stressed out because he's having to handle the finances for the wedding, but he obviously shouldn't be taking this out on you. How do you behave when he acts like this? If you try to pacify him each time he goes quiet then you ought to stop doing that because he's just getting used to it.
Yikes.....I feel like I've just given advice to a parent for his/her child!!
no i didnt talk about his behaviour ..... and when to talk becoz i think its better to be quite if other person is in anger becoz its save many things ...i talked to my mom she get worried about all this ... but i have trust in ALLAH ..may be this is my qismat
Like I said before, talk to him; he can't be angry all the time. You're just sending the wrong message everytime you go running back, like it's your fault for him behaving like that!
And get a grip - you control your kismat too to some extent.
and yes he gets used to it he always said mein thak gya hua samaja samja ke tumhey now u should be mature and all.
From what you have shared, it sounds like he is overly stressed. Is he working 2 jobs, in order to make the wedding happen? Who has put those expectations on him? Seriously is it worth it to overly exhaust someone with certain expectations of the wedding, gifts, etc that he becomes moody? What has he explained to you over & over again?
He's working 2 jobs, the wedding is close....the man is stressed out.
Give him some space and relax please. Like Disney Princess said, get a grip!
if he used to be nice and caring, then that means his current personality is just due to stress and is temporary.
^to get a grip, what he said. It means to control yourself and to get a grip over your emotions! Samaj jao that your fiancé has a lot of pressure on him so don't bother him about petty things basically. Allah can only control some part, you have to put in most of the work.