Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
OP, what do your parents think of your marriage plans?
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
OP - what did you decide
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond. I don't think I'll answer everyone's questions separately because I don't think that would change the advice you all gave. This is so hard and confusing for me, I will probably think on this for a few more days before I make my final decision.
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
I had exactly the same story as yours but the different was that my ex husband was extremly supporting toward me but changed as soon as he got married.within 1 year we got divorced.jaahil people never change.good Luck with your decision.
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
run...there are too many issues!!I would't marry this guy. There is no trust/respect/understanding, RUN!! or you will regret it.
Hey I'm in the same situation as u. The difference is that I'm married and have two kids so have nowhere to run to. But my husband always sticks to what his family says. Whether right or wrong. U r independent. U shouldn't be taking this attitude.
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
i cant believe i just read tht thing... i feel sorry for such ppl. wht a family.. :/
OP - you are willing to sacrifice everything for such a person who doesnt even believe wht you are saying.... Sorry, but if are really strong willed and capable enough to handle this.... Proceed, But get ready for a roller-coaster ride ! you are going for the joint setup where major of ur in-laws keep throwing tantrums plus you dun even have support of ur fiance.
Dont do this to urself. Cuz few years down the line you will regret your decision. Rest, its one's personal choice.
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
i know of people who have gone through similar situation, and end up getting married, and now are thinking of seperation/divorce.
I would recommend you to sit down with you parents or whoever you are close with and talk about every thing that has gone wrong so far.
You still have time now to end this relationship, it is your life and future.
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
If your fiance was supportive or at the least believed you, I would've advised you to continue. I have been through lots and lots of crap by sisters in law. They love drams and are extremely manipulative but my hubby is a sweet heart. He supports me 95 percent of the times if not 100 percent. You need to call it off. It wont get better with time. It will get worse. I know because my younger sil is exactly like your elder one. I too had to wear the color that I hate even though I had specifically told hr that they can choose whatever they like just not that one damn color. Mine too was w designer jora. Sigh these chalako maasian...
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Sooooo many red flags and now soooooo many real life examples of other people who have been in same situation where it did not get any better but worse. If even still you go through with this then you will have No ONE to blame but yourself if things go wrong. Not even the sister cus at least she is showing you the truth about how its going to be now rather than be sweet now n change after you get married like some. You should consider yourself lucky she is giving you warning signs now but if you choose to ignore then you doing it at your own peril.
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Do not try to please everyone......it will not work always.......at times you got to let go......
Re: Need Advice .. Bride to Be with SIL issues !
From what you've written, I see only cons in this marriage and not a single pro. I don't see a single reason for not walking away from this.