Need advice - am I being unreasonable and unfair?

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Re: Need advice - am I being unreasonable and unfair?

@Paheli00

Few Q’s:

1. Does you husband have a job? At this point, do you two make enough money to be able to get a separate apartment/house and support yourselves 100% financially?

2. Have you told your husband how you have a hard time staying up late with him and then getting up at 9:00 a.m. the next morning? What was his response to this?

3. Why on earth would you cook a dish just for you and your husband while living in a joint family? Why not make it for the entire family? Has you MIL told you that she doesn’t like your cooking?

4. Since your husband doesn’t like the food his mother makes…exactly what did he eat BEFORE marriage? Did he have a habit of ordering take-out BEFORE the wedding too?

1. At the moment no, it wouldn’t be possible to move out and support ourselves.
2. Yeah he knows, and he says it’s fine I can go to sleep when I want to, but we just end up lying in bed talking until late anyway - I just can’t help it.
3. Because me and hubby both prefer meat, and in-laws have mainly vegetables, and couldn’t have meat everyday. They also stick to a strict salan and roti routine, I’m not used to that and I prefer cooking other things such a pasta, pizza etc which they don’t like. Another thing hubby complains about is the fact that I take no interest in learning new recipes that his mum cooks - when I say that I know how to make what I would make for my family (i.e. me, him and our future kids) he gets angry and says that his parents like this food therefore I should learn to make it.
4. He simply didn’t eat it - I remember getting so worried and angry at him before we got married when I would learn he would just stay hungry and not eat if there was nothing made at home. I used to promise him he’d never go hungry after we got married, but clearly it’s still happening now because his mum doesn’t like the fact that we make our own foods. Also, like previously mentioned, they have a rigid salan and roti routine, and there’s no 3rd option, whereas I’m used to eating all types of different things - so it’s upto us to stock the fridge/freezer with whatever we like, which doesn’t happen that much as we don’t get the time to go shopping as much.