Need a little help regarding friendship:)

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Re: Need a little help regarding friendship:)

Sajid20, some very good points in these posts. Please pay attention.

@Mirch

Tell your parents to take a mithai ka tokra and some pholoon k haar for her and her family and seek her hand in marriage and live happily ever after.
If that is not possible then make sure you make something out of your life so that people yearn for your friendship instead of you going after others.

@Mirch

Why not try to be smartest kid in your class and she will seek your help with her studies and then rest is up to you. It used to work like a charm when I was a student.

@redvelvet

I think that giving her your phone number right away would be awkward…it’s too soon for that. When you see her alone…on her way home or whenever…how about just starting off by smiling and greeting her and asking a casual how are you…how’d you do on the assignment/test…etc. A few casual interactions and then maybe tell her that you find her interesting and would like to get to know her better and would she mind if you both exchange contact information.

@Naabigh

Use formula no 212 - section B :

As you stated that she is good at studies - so my child , go to her asking for help , ask her politely if she cares to share the notes of the subject you find difficult …

try to chase her in library … and around your department’s lawn … when she sits with her friend during break time…

if it doesnt work straight away then use section C of the same formula …

pick one of her friend , and make her your college sister …and then one fine day , with some tears in your eyes , ask her to help you in this regard ..

Yea aj kaal ki generation bi na - sala ek larki ko woo karna nahii atah … ! online forums pe akay help manGte haiN - abey jab hum tumharii Umar k thay na - well we better dont go there

@FairyTale

Ask her about some notes or book. Initiate a convo and take it from there. If she is in your class then i am sure you both will get many chances to talk to each other. thora sabar karo.

The guy who is my best friend now from like 10 yrs. we met in Uni. I missed one class for some reasons. This friend of mine (was not friend at that time) came to me and said Oh tum ne class miss kar di. aaj tou bohat important chapter tha. then he said do not worry I will share my notes. here is my phone number, give me call in evening and i will explain."

@cutefifa

No Nisha it won’t work if he offers to hold her books or walk with her with out any friendship. I am sure she will not like it. Instead start your friendship with her by asking for notes or lectures. Its a best approach and it works most of the time :p. after two or three times of lein dein of notes or lectures, ask her permission for adding her on fb so that you can discuss lectures in detail with her. When you start chatting with her ask for her number when you feel that she has started trusting you. After this i am sure you will not need more advice seriously.

Best of luck.

@Demesne

This girl is a “type”. She does not mingle with boys at all and therefore would probably hang around with similar minded girls. And if she were to be approached in such a manner, it would mean scandal for her. This type of girl will be judged by her peers (since they are similar ie not mingling with guys) and would be singled out for befriending a guy.

Stay away

@Murgi

If you go to her while she is walking out the gate of the university and hand her your email address/phone number, you know what she will do? She will think you’re a creeper, she will tell her friends what you did, and they will for the rest of your college career make fun of you.

Meray bhai, don’t even think about that move. Ever. Anywhere. In the world. It’s ridiculous and frankly it’s creepy. You don’t want her fraanship alone, because if you did, you would have had no problem talking to her. So I suggest that you clear that stance with your own self first. If you are really adamant about getting to know her a bit more, talk to her when she is with her friends to put her at ease. Talk about an assignment, the professor whatever it is. Don’t corner her alone. She will never like it. Get to know her with friends, and through that you can slip her oyur phone number/email/facebook/orkut whatever. Stop stalking her btw.

@Demesne

If you cannot, then the best thing to do is to befriend a friend of hers. Get to know that friend well and perhaps approach her through that friend. Let the friend be the one to praise you and make an introduction. That is a better way to go about it. It’s longer, but better.