nazi mom

[soni27]

@bbbb

Wow, my cousin is going through the exact same ordeal as you.

It’s not that she is racist, she just identifies the bad company with race. Don’t shoot her down and label her as a “nazi”. Your mom and ONLY your mom will have the best interest in mind for you. You can have all the friends in the world, and all the well wishers…but trust me when you mess up…no one will be there for you except her. She didnt raise you to be called a “nazi”…have respect for her.

It’s not just your friends, the guys, the clothes, the language…it’s the whole package. You need to start making friends that are good, even if they are from a different race.

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sania: this is the dumbet reason iv heard to go against ur mother for..r u like 12 years old?

[Deeba1234]

Re: nazi mom

^ Racism against black ppl is a dumb reason?? Are u serious??

(And no, I'm not saying she should start shouting at her mum or disrespecting her, just point out her views are wrong)

[bbbb]

@Deeba1234

Firstly, she might think she has the best interests in mind for her daughter but that doesn't mean the way she's acting** is in her daughter's best interests. Secondly, it's not always a person's mum (or dad) who will look out for them the most, I know a girl and a boy who were not spoken to for years because they married ppl from the wrong race (thankfully that attitude is a lot rarer in London nowadays tho). In their cases it was their inlaws and friends who looked out for them. A friend of mine was also telling me about some young desi girls working as prostitutes after having emotional difficulties and/or drug problems, as u can prob guess their parents have completely washed their hands of them. Whilst I don't think it's ok to disrespect ur parents u need to also strike a balance, blind obedience or choosing to ignore when u **know someone is doing wrong is not right.

If my mum said she didn't want me having black friends or made nasty comments about them I'd tell her there and then she shouldn't talk that way, not just keep quiet and put it down to culture or her being stuck in her old ways. I wouldn't shout at her but make it clear that what she said isn't any more acceptable than someone else calling her a p*ki.

Sania, can u not even bring one of those friends home so ur mum can get to know her a bit?

You're not her mom, and neither am I. I am sure her mom would care more about ms. sania than you and I here. My advice was based on the perspective where my cousin is dealing with the same issue.

I am not going into any long winded discussion.

[Gaia]

Re: nazi mom

*Ohh and also feed them desi food and introduce them to some desi stuff, because #1 they'll love it and #2 your mom will see that you are capable to staying true to yourself while being friends with them. *

[Desi_BeauTii]

@Deeba1234

But most of those things mentioned in bold apply to most non-Muslims. If she feels uncomfortable mixing with ppl who eat non-halal food or show skin in the summer what is she doing in a country where all that is so common?? It would be like me moving to a jungle to live alongside some primitive tribe who don't wear clothing then turning around and saying nudity offends me. Like MB said why not just stay in Pakistan if she doesn't like or feel comfortable with different cultures.

People come to America for a better opportunity. For education, jobs, health benefits, and security. However this country is filled with people that engage in activities that are against our religion as well as their own. They have lost insight, I'm not saying they are bad people. Allah made them, just as he made us, but I think even islamically it is recommended to stay away from people that engage in haram activities. That doesn't mean that you need to stay in a country where you have to run around to get medicine for a family member that is in the hospital, or bring that family member home only to find that they cannot rest comfortable due to lack of utlities caused by load shedding.

I see your point... however it's pointless. We have temptations ALL around us. Life is a test. If we were put in envoirments where we found no temptations what kind of test would this be? Adam was also tested by the forbidden fruit, but he gave into temptation and peer pressure from Eve.

For your information, all of these activites, are done in pakistan. Mostly behind closed doors, as there are considered haram or illegal so im sure the people involved would not dare to do them out in the open. Pakistan can't even enforce the Zakt process properly, that is why we still have numerous homeless people. I'm sure her mom would not want her engaging with these people either. Should we move from Pakistan as well? Why don't you tell me where we should live?

So in conclusion, secluding yourself to a village in Pakistan or any other Islamic country due to the temptations of America is not enough reason to deprive you and your family of a more comfortable life. Learn to control yourself and NOT your envoirment. You cannot change people, but you can change who you socialize with. Can you imagine how people would percieve her if hey saw her with any girl that was dressed in shorts, was walking around talking to boys, and drinking. Regardless of race you should NEVER socialize with these sort of people.

Now, on the other hand, if this girl is socializing with muslim americans, that cover their body, save themselves for marriage, go to college to study, refrain from eating haram and drinking. Than Kudos to her and shame on her mother.

Don't get me wrong, I love both of my countries, Pakistan and America. But I am not afraid to admitt our problems.