I know this one thoroughly nasty human. Everyone knows she is nasty, conniving and cunning. She goes around slagging me and others off yet everyone knows that the only rotten person is herself. I find humans like that very hollow. They have all worldy possessions but not the basic internal happiness, love and respect. They’ve had it tough so want you to go through the same. They had a shyte marriage and want you to have the same. I think that is the nastiest thing a person can wish upon another. Especially when that person is me. I mean..harmless me. I still be nice to the biatch, respect her as the relationship between us is such nothing else could go…but really makes you wonder.
From everything i have learnt about my life to date ..i would like to teach others, guide others so they can avoid going through the same hardships or sadness etc. What kind of sick people want you to hurt because they have hurt? Or for you to have it tough because they had it bad. Really really puzzles me.
You can say someome i know is like that. She's had a hard life, criticises people a lot, picks fights a lot with my stepmother and belittles her. That kind of behavior can't be justified but when you truly look at her as a person, without all those layers of how she interacts with people, just who she is, no one can hate her. I used to dislike her because she was always causing fasaad in her home but one day she came out of the bathroom and didn't say a word to us and there was a pool of blood in the toilet, because something in her had ruptured or something. I dont know, I just can't hate someone when I see them as what they really are.
You know, in the end I don't think we have the right to dislike someone or condemn them friom being mean or even turn ourselves away from them collectively. Evem if they have no justification for being mean, we still shouldn't. I guess that's just how I see things. And I truly think sometimes the people who are the meanest may be looking for the most love. I feel strongly about this. I guess we never really know why these people act this way but we should still be nice to them. i.e. nice to them both in front of their face and behind their back :)
Reminds me of something my father once told me about. This guy used to go to this shop or something and say salam to the guy there but the other guy never said salam back. But the guy still continued doing it. I guess even if someone is bad to us, it doesn't hurt us to be nice to them always. just more sawab to us.
I'm very fickle. I hate her one minute ( if you know someones actively seeking opportunity to bring you down without you having done anything it annoys ) and then come the next minute she'll smile and say something nice and i'll forgive her. To be honest i do feel sorry for her. I think internally she is so messed and bitter to see others happy rips her apart. Ah well..like you said..we should try and be nice. So what if its not returned. God i'm so confused. Ok, i hate her.
Ok ... hate to be repetitive... but i agree w. others...
however.. u can do two more things...
TOTAlly IGNORE this person. I mean... pretend they don't exist at all.
They say anything... walk past them... if at dinner time... miss giving this person a plate or a serving... honestly its childish... but we're all mischievous
Or... play this person at his or her own game... Ur like a terrible EastEnder at heart... so show it. Be cruel :)
I really believe that there is a reason for everything under the sun. It's just that we don't know it.
If you presume that everyone is behaving as well as they can or know how, it may help to accept such behaviour even when it upsets you. One thing that I have found useful is realising that my reaction to someone else is due in most part to how I see myself, rather than a result of that person's behaviour.
Somehow that has been very useful or me to think about when I get upset because of something someone else says.
So what if you react to another person who upsets you by thinking, "Poor thing, s/he can't help it. She doesn't have the info she needs, or she has been very hurt in the past" and react accordingly, forgivingòy and lovingly, it just may help to change things. At least you won't be so upset...
I see things a little differently. I say you admit yourself to a Thai Kickboxing school and beat the crap out of her punk az and if she is still acting punky get yourself into Shaolin temple and go kamakazi on her.
"And I truly think sometimes the people who are the meanest may be looking for the most love."
I think there's a lot of truth to that. I had a friend who was/is like that. It's really tough though...cause you cannot help someone unless they are willing to: one, accept it and also to work towards bettering their situation.
Unfortunately I think for some their pride is more important than anything else and for them there's really nothing you can do but back off.
It reminds me of some of my Phupos. You would think that family would live and die for you (in an ideal world). But these Phupos kids and marriages haven't turned out as great as they dreamed, partly due to their own fault I'd say. It was during my wedding and then later my brother's wedding that a couple of these Phupos stirred up some trouble and eventually either I or my mother were in tears. Some people love to turn a happy occasion into one that is full of stress. But what can you do? I still have to respect them and act as though everything's fine. But inside it does make me a little hardened. I do have a wall up with some members of my own family. How terrible!! I really wish I could be open, loving and completely trust all of my family members. But if you've been hurt over and over then you lose trust. It's just smart to recognize that some people are not worthy of trust because of their own petty issues. They want to dump their own problems on others who are not suffering like they are.
I knew someone like that...he was one of those people you'd regard as pure evil. BUt he had been hurt so many times that he ended up wanting to hurt people before they could hurt him and thus remain "in control".
Killed the man with kindness..no matter what he said or did I returned it with a double dose of love...
I wouldn’t call you fickle. I would call you forgiving. You just aren’t the type of person to hold a grudge against someone, especially if they are being kind towards you. You forget whatever they did and will give them another chance in a heartbeat. I’m actually the same way … despite common belief.
Unfortunately, there are people like this woman you have encountered everywhere. If you know what she’s like, you can try and keep your distance and not get overly friendly with her. Keep it civil, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to be nice. Personally, I don’t believe that these types of people who act this way are just looking for love. I have met people in my life who are purely wicked and aren’t really looking for anything (i.e. love, respect, etc.) in return. They are just mean hearted and have other types of issues (insecurities, jealousy, lack of self-esteem, etc.). I tend to view these as the driving forces behind such wickedness.
I guess it depends on if you want to really maintain a relationship with this woman. You can remain civil and kind. In my experience though, you can be overly nice to these types of people, and they will still treat you like crap … behind your back of course. You may be sincere, but it doesn’t mean the other person is.
^ never met anyone like this…met many nasty ppl in my life…from what i know even the nastiest ppl on earth just dont start bitching around others unless u give them a reason to…itni energy kisi kai paas nahin hoti, kai baghair kisi shai kai shuru ho jaai however low on love, repsect and slef-esteem that person may b…somewhere some place u might be intruding in her territory thats why she is behaving like that…laikin in a place like GS where the ‘nicest ppl’ ,so nice as to be almost Christ-like, come and blow their own horns, it barely ever shows… unless u notice how starkly similar the cindrella stories all are…
well said…
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