Narcissistic parents

[Mystique]

Re: Narcissistic parents

@Shareefbacha95

1. Narcissists are controlling and see their child as an extra limb attached to their bodies. They very much exist in some paki families except we agree to fulfill their every wish for cultural and religious reasons and wouldn’t dare to label them negatively.

Narcissists are extremely deceitfully destructive people who destroy their targets knowing well that their lies, rumors, fabricated stories and other bad actions will destroy social lives and careers of their targets.

On the other hand, I have seen many controlling parents whose controlling attitudes casued blockage in their childrens’ social lives and careers but it was because they did not know better. Despite being educated and having successful careers themselves, they did not know how to raise kids. Or they were over protective because they did not want their children to get hurt.

So there is a huge difference between how narcissists intentionally damage their targets and how parents complicate their childrens’ lives in their ignorance about raising kids. Such parents are not hurting their kids’ on purpose. That is why calling them narcissists is unfair, my dear. Yeah if you know of any parents harming their kids’ development and lives on purpose knowing fully well that their actions and way of raising their kids are actually harming their kids’ lives careers then in that case, such parents can be labelled ‘Narcissists’. Otherwise no.

2. I agree. My reasoning was that educated parents would be a bit more liberal and open minded with raising their child in a western society. That isn’t the case for every parent as u pointed out.

One has to be super sensitive and intelligent in raising kids. It’s a huge responaibility. Colleges/Unis dont provide that training. It is learned through parents or friends or through other people. Or religion. Then every kid is different, has a different personality. Parents must be wise enough to know how to handle each without damaging their personalities. So only with wisdom it is learned. They may have a number of sources around them to learn from but they may not nessarily have the time or wisdom to learn. Despite all that they lack in this, I would never label them narcissists. If the child is wiser and mature enough, he/she can try teaching their parents with the help of other wiser ones in the family. If there’s no one then by themselves. Parents can be taught if done so wisely.

Perfect parents are rare. Do not exists everywhere. So Im sure we all have had disagreements with parents over things while growing up but then it depends on how much wiser and mentally mature a child really is. Every child claims to be but are they really?? Just tackling a complicated situation with parents is actually a test to know how much mentally mature a child is. So unless parents purposely hurting their children, a wiser 18yo should be able to tackle most tricky situatons with his/her parents. If he/she cannot, they are not wise enough.