Narcissistic parents

[Shareefbacha95]

Re: Narcissistic parents

@Mystique

Were you confused when you wrote that post?

1. What has narcissism got to do with ‘control’??? One can be controlling without being a narcissist. On the other hand, you will find many narcissists who are not controlling in normal sense of the word. They control their target(s) through twisted dirty games lies and stories indirectly through other people, not directly as in case of most paki parents.

2. Education has got nothing to do with being controlling. How come you have not seen cases where educated parents are over protective and where uneducated parents not only provide too much freedom to their kids in terms of choice of career and other areas of life but also fully support them. I saw all kinds if cases in college life. Everyone does. So how come you are unaware that university degrees do not train you on how to bring up kids.

3. Why you so sure that narcissistic, controlling or otherwise bad parents do not exist in non-paki communities. Plenty of cases of extremely controlling and bad parents in non paki/ non muslim societies that will make you want be grateful for your paki parents caring and protective attitude.

4. Is this some kind of survey for your dissertation? Why would you want to know when/how others got independent to manage their own lives’ affairs? Or do you want to compare other people’s lives with yours?

1. Narcissists are controlling and see their child as an extra limb attached to their bodies. They very much exist in some paki families except we agree to fulfill their every wish for cultural and religious reasons and wouldn’t dare to label them negatively.

2. I agree. My reasoning was that educated parents would be a bit more liberal and open minded with raising their child in a western society. That isn’t the case for every parent as u pointed out.

3. I never said that they don’t exist in non-muslim families. I posted to this forum to get a Paki view.

4. I just want to know if there are people with similar issues and their experiences.