I just read this and somehow can relate to it.
How about you all on this forum?
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I can write a book about narcs
It's a scary personality disorder with no chances of positive change.
Btw, who's the narc in your life?
Likely a narcissist feels the same. As they say, don't expect too much from others and then small gestures become joys.
You obv are not familiar with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We all might have narcissistic tendencies to a certain degrees, but Narcissists are pure evil 
Likely, humming bird is not humming about a person with NPD but likely about a regular person with narcissistic tendencies. Again reading the definition, I would say that if there are more than a few who appear narcissist in ones life, it would be good to see a doctor. 
It literally says “Relationship with a Narcissist in a nutshell”. 
As I said we all have narcissistic tendencies, doesn’t make us all Narcissists. Therefore, no, a Narcissist doesn’t feel the same way, they are wired differently.
Anyhoo before you make claims about a person whom has had to deal with one or a few Narcissists, first educate yourself before trying to give suggestions about seeing a doctor. Victim-blaming at its best.
I believe I need to give my honest opinion, instead of being wishy-washy about how I feel. I am not forcing my opinion onto the poster and hence mentioned "likely" twice in the same sentence. The first line of the post made me believe that the comment is not coming from someone who is actually dealing with a person with NPD.
However, your point has merit and I have adjusted my post accordingly
I can’t speak for the OP but sadly we can deal with lots of toxic people, and sometimes we too can be the toxic person in someone else’s life, without realizing iy.
However, the description of the relationship is classic NPD. Maybe the OP can clarify his/her situation a bit more.
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I just read this and somehow can relate to it.
How about you all on this forum?
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:') sounds like an old crazy friend of mines. She is not missed at all.
sounds like my last 15 years :) enough said
^ it takes time and distance away from the person we loved so much to realise this. They get worse with age 
^ realisation is good. Loving them still, not so much. Time and distance apart is cure.
The good news is that there are many many years perhaps decades to come with a lot of happiness in your life. Here is to you..
I had a senior manager like that. I don’t know whether he met the clinical criteria of a narcissist or not, but sure had motivation-killer effects on the team. His project plans revolved around fixing blames. All the credits were his, and shortcomings will be on the team. You do 10 out of 10 things, he will not talk about it but will question and criticize about 11th thing. I remember finishing work days feeling super tired and drained.
His mom passed away due to Cancer, he told us one day. Earlier, he had also told us how he hasn’t spoken to his entire parental family in years and hated them. Yet he used the newfound sympathies to promote himself as much as possible with the higher management.
His tactic or managerial style as he used to refer it to was to “apply maximum pressure”. Or “throw em in the fire”, “drown em”, etc. Never allowed other employees to speak to upper management. Eventually there was restructuring and he got new bosses. He continued blaming the team for every shortcoming but they didn’t buy it for long and got rid of him.
In professional life, we encounter narcissists which also claim to be the “expert” in their lives. Now whether its true or no but we have to live with it. Unless someone comes and proves herself or himself a better expert.
But in daily life, these Narcissists are not only relationship killer but also can make the whole environment Zehreela. I just cant stand them
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So why are narcissists the only class of psychologically challenged folks who get a bad rap and are looked down upon? Why do those with fancy ailments like 'depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, bipolar' get sympathy, while narcissism is used as a curse word?
If its a disorder, then its a disorder. Be nice to narcissists, and get them the help they deserve.
^ Lol I suggest you read up on what Narcissism is first, and perhaps talk to some people who have experienced this abuse. But nice try.
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I’m too tired to share how I feel about the comparison of NPD with the above mentioned mental health disorders. So I’ll spare you my rant.
You really got me thinking. All the conditions you mentioned do make the lives of those around miserable at best and hellish at worst. I think the reason only narcissists get a bad rap is because it is a learned behaviour which is completely in the hands of the person to rectify, something like extreme selfishness.
We all are selfish to varying degrees but some are shamelessly extremely selfish and hence stand out. For example, a friend of mine got some stomach surgery done a few years ago. For him lifting weight ever since could be very dangerous, almost fatal. Yet, another guy in my circle who knew very well about his condition got my friend to help move heavy furniture, despite my friend reminding that guy about the condition. I know my friend was stupid to have gone there, but this other guy was just crazy selfish and I called him out on that.
All psychological ailments require intervention, and the cure to all is mainly in the hands of the patient themselves. Narcissists require psychotherapy, and medication if needed, just like patients of anxiety etc.
We create a definition, and then stick to it, even if its incorrect. Try calling someone mentally retarded, and the whole town will bash you…but call someone a narcissistic pig, and it becomes just a figure of speech.