Re: narazgi.....
i find it fairly easy to just stop talking to people but i have started to realize that some day we all will be dead and none of this wud even matter.so its better to let things go.dont be the best sister but be a better person instead.
Re: narazgi.....
For most of us who are earning a decent living giving up our share of the property, money is not a big deal when it comes to siblings. And I am pretty sure if I put it on here that I was being abused by my husband, physically, emotionally, and verbally pretty much all of you would tell me to file for divorce even if I had kids and I had no way of supporting myself.
My question to you is what if the abuser is your own sibling? Then what ? Do you keep going to them to 'fix it' because they share the same blood as you.
Abuse is not always slaps and punches, we all know that. And we also know that abuse can take place by both women and men. Our siblings can also be our abusers.
For a lot of ppl who have walked away from abuse, abandonment, deceit, lies and disgrace, that their siblings have caused them or their parents. They only wish it had been about the money.
And I have mentioned this before but ppl don't see what goes on behind closed doors. Most ppl now have nuclear units, it is hard to tell what the dynamics of a certain family are. And the embarassment, the hurt, the pain that comes from letting anyone know that you and your sibling are estranged is not something most ppl would like to go through.
Re: narazgi.....
.. and there are people like me who miss having a sister every SINGLE day of my life.
I am sorry but you all are a thankless bunch. I love my brothers like anything & I can't even think of the extent of not talking to one.
Wow, pretty harsh reply.
DD it is a two way street, no one walks away (especially sisters unless the other sibling has pushed them away) and I really really believed that there was nothing to separate siblings but life proved me otherwise. And it honestly boils down to if someone doesn't want you in their lives they will create situations and sometimes you just gotta get out with a little bit of self respect intact.
I pray no siblings have to go through separation and even more painful is for parents to see their kids not speaking to each other while they are alive. But if a child can walk away from their parents and do unthinkable things to them they can darn well push their siblings away.
You're absolutely correct. We never know where life will take us, sometimes you have to just roll with the punches.
It is definitely sad when siblings are driven away from each other by life and circumstance. I am very close to mine and I would love to say it would not happen to us, but there is always a first time. I'm sure the siblings who were driven away from each other didn't think at one time that they could come to this particular stage, but there they are.
I keep hearing that things change and relationships are burdened by the additional people we add on to our families, and that you can never say never.
I guess I can only pray it doesn't happen to anyone or myself.
Peace
In my particular situation, my husband was not the cause of anything. It was more like I was taking my frustrations out on him, and became very bitter and mean towards him and the kids. For the sake of OUR family, I had to step away from my Api's stress. And yes, many months of counseling taught me that was okay to do that. I'm not a monster or cold hearted witch who just one day decided I didn't want to play with my sister anymore.
Normally when they get married, spouse's play a role in moving them apart. This turns out to be the reason for most.
Siblings would otherwise be forgiving enough but when third parties are involved, it just adds fuel to fire probably.
No, not necessarily. See my reply above.
Re: narazgi.....
though the trust is broken u still can trust ur sibling more than u can trust any outsider.That is the beauty of this relation.
Re: narazgi.....
I think everyone whos saying you are thankless or whatever cause your relationship with your sibling isnt great or you cant stand each other, really need to get off their high horse.
Not everyone has the same close knit upbringing, thus problems create a bigger distance
Not everyone is forgiving everything in the name of "blood"
Most siblings are not ideal. We do take our siblings for granted. We do load our stress and manipulations on them. Things become difficult when its not just about the two of you, but a third person as well for instance your children. Like the punjabi saying says "Tidd (stomach) do pehla nahin gode (knee)" meaning, everything has their own order.
Siblings, sigh, cant live with them, cant live without them :p
Re: narazgi.....
Sometimes there is only one side - in other words, some people can be pretty insensitive and inconsiderate - it is their way or the highway.
yes OP posted here because it affects her. But without knowing details, to just say fix it probably may do more damage to OP. Sometimes fixing it may mean walking away
Its not very often you will find it to be one side though. Yes, sometimes you will find dominating siblings that do want it their way. But you have to learn to ride those moments out and just do it your way regardless.
For most of us who are earning a decent living giving up our share of the property, money is not a big deal when it comes to siblings. And I am pretty sure if I put it on here that I was being abused by my husband, physically, emotionally, and verbally pretty much all of you would tell me to file for divorce even if I had kids and I had no way of supporting myself.
My question to you is what if the abuser is your own sibling? Then what ? Do you keep going to them to 'fix it' because they share the same blood as you.
Abuse is not always slaps and punches, we all know that. And we also know that abuse can take place by both women and men. Our siblings can also be our abusers.
For a lot of ppl who have walked away from abuse, abandonment, deceit, lies and disgrace, that their siblings have caused them or their parents. They only wish it had been about the money.
And I have mentioned this before but ppl don't see what goes on behind closed doors. Most ppl now have nuclear units, it is hard to tell what the dynamics of a certain family are. And the embarassment, the hurt, the pain that comes from letting anyone know that you and your sibling are estranged is not something most ppl would like to go through.
Of course do not put yourself in a position where you are abused by anyone! Not even your sibling.
My point is not that we should all be one big happy family all the time. Its simply that (provided your own family comes first) you should always try to maintain some semblance of a relationship. Just try. That's all. You should know that you did your best. That's it.
Re: narazgi.....
And no, I don't mean to say people who aren't close are ungrateful.
No two people have the same personalities. It really is as simple as that.
Re: narazgi…
a breath of fresh air & reason…so uncommon these days unfortunately 
Re: narazgi.....
"Its not very often you will find it to be one side though. Yes, sometimes you will find dominating siblings that do want it their way. But you have to learn to ride those moments out and just do it your way regardless. "
I like that approach!