So, you have colleagues, co-workers, classmates, friends in school, friends in your neighborhood, cousins etc.. etc…
and you have been in a fight with someone(not physically, ofcourse) regarding disagreements, wrong judgements, misunderstanding etc.. and then you cut off all contacts and communication with that person, even if you get to see the person alteast 3 to 5 times a week…
How do you feel then? does it hurt when you both have get a eye contact with each other on the way…
Do you hold the grudges against them even if they are not around? do you feel threatened to be around them?
How often are you willing to make up with them? how do you take the first step? and if you don’t want to make up with them… Then what to you do to avoid the awkwardness and embarresment when you find that person within a mehfil or in your way…
I try to be as normal as possible but cannot really hide my feelings. So, try to have an open fight rather than a cold war to get everything settled. Aik dafa zor ka phadda and then everything becomes normal :D
I hate holding grudge against ppl, on the other hand I dislike ppl who keep stuff inside themselves n try to act normal, dey eventually burst out saying bad bad stuff to each other, I wod prefer talkin to that person n discussing things. or maybe an argument or something. but no grudges or something.
^lol, why does everyone assume that the quiet ones and those who don't talk about the issue are holding a grudge? In my experience, it's been the opposite. I have found that most talkative folks tend to say the most sarcastic, indirect comments after an arguement. Most of them have NO intentions to resolve the issue but rather to prove themselves right. I would rather remain silent, eventually I forget about it and I am all ok. I don't think everything needs to be said and discussed.
If I have such misunderstanding with a person, I avoid them until my heart is clear again. I just don't say anything. If they come in front of me, I smile and say Hi and move on. I find that discussing stuff sometimes make the issue even bigger. I also remain quiet because I don't even consider it an issue, it doesnt bother me at all. If I have a misunderstanding with someone, unless that person is very very close, it doesnt bother me. I forget about it within minutes.
