Naming your child & relatives

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starry_eyes February 21, 2011, 10:30pm 1

hi everyone,

hopefully people who have been or are going through this can offer some advice…

how do you tell your in-laws that you don’t like the names they are suggesting? and that you would like to name the child yourself…I’m finding it hard to strike a balance between being nice and honest..

KKF February 21, 2011, 10:32pm 2

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**appreciate and accept the names they suggest and tell them u'll consider what they have suggested and that u'll let them know when u decide on any one name :D

suneN sab kii...kareN apnii...aur:

meeThii chhurii se kiyaa Halaal :D
**

Deeba1234 February 22, 2011, 12:02am 3

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What about using the one they suggested as just a middle name as a compromise?

starry_eyes February 22, 2011, 10:13am 4

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thanks for the suggestions. it does get complicated because of the relationship with in-laws, you can't hurt their feelings either....but being this being our first child there is the excitement of picking a name special to us..it may be selfish but they must have felt the same way as first time parents.

girl_on_ice February 22, 2011, 1:40pm 5

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why not ask them, if they named their first born then surely you have the right to name your child,
but if their in laws named their first born the circle goes on.....good luck !

sarad February 22, 2011, 5:36pm 6

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Its kind of like that with families in Pakistan. Not sure why though.
Like in my family, my khala and other people suggested our names. I do not think my mom got to pick any name for any of us.
Similarly, my husband wants his family to suggest a name and says that his father/mother never got to name any child of his. So we should go through the same thing ?????
I do not know but many girls start thinking of names when they get married and it is soo worng to take away this from them. ( I started making a list when we decided to have a baby)
I am so not liking it.

I am also thinking of using the suggested name as middle name if I dont like it. Lets see !!!

Ramsha February 22, 2011, 7:46pm 7

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I like the middle name idea....thats probably what I'm going to end up doing.

somegroovychick February 23, 2011, 12:53am 8

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my cousin told me she's letting her inlaws pick their baby's first name in that they will be providing a list and she and her hubby will have final veto. that's another compromise, no? they put forth their favourites and you choose from them, unless they're absolutely horrendous then you go with your choice and use theirs as a middle name. still, i'm sure the inlaws won't suggest horrible names- like my cousin said, they'll be chosen with great love and care by grandparents too.

Ramsha February 23, 2011, 1:02am 9

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Thats a great idea too, this way the inlaws feel included and respected and you get to choose what you like as well.