Re: Naming my first born!
If in-laws have already named a grandchild, then I think they need to ease up and let the parents of the unborn child decide. How often will one use the “my last wish/aakhri khwaish” reason? If the reason’s been used before already, to use it again and again sounds like emotional manipulation. Har banday ki khwaish hoti hai to name a child…especially especially especiallllllyyy the child’s parents and the mother carrying it. The in-laws can suggest names but they shouldn’t impose or manipulate or think that the right is first and foremost theirs. It’s great that we have a concept of baron ka adab karna…and yielding to elders…but it can be taken too far at times. It is the bara-pan of elders to show flexibility and regard for the rights of those that are younger…in this case the children and their spouses.
Op, look at the list of names in-laws suggest. You can opt to use their choice as a middle-name. This is a matter best-discussed with your husband. My friend went through a similar issue, but she talked to her husband very gently, lovingly…but also backed off at times. Being aggressive is likely to backfire.