How many girlies have taken on their partners name.
I haven’t
I quite like retaining my ‘me-ness’
It was never suggested i change, and i didn’t either
Where did the whole concept come from in the first place?
Were desis behind it?
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I am not going to change my surname. I dont get the whole concept of it.
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I didn't take it. It's a Judeo/Christian custom, I think. Handing the girl over from father to husband.
But I like my name, and I don't feel like a different person, so I kept my name.
The question is what happens to the kids' names?
My brothers think it would be cool if we developed an entirely new last name, by phonetically combining our last names -- it would be "Mohsiqui." I'm not a big fan of that, although I have met a couple who both changed their last names to an entirely new name (which had some significant meaning).
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lol at brothers suggestion
My nephews n nieces have taken my brothers first name as their surname
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^ LOL that's a whole other system, and has caused a lot of confusion now that my mamoon's are migrating to the US.
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i think its a very personal desicion .. about changing your name. my parents took forever naming me when i was born..so that my first name would go well with my last name..and now that i’m all grown up..am i supposed to shove it down the drain and take on a guy’s name? then again..you’re making a commitment of life..into marriage..so why not take the name also?!
im gona have to think about this real long n hard when i get married
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I didnt change my name.
This is what I have always been called all my life, its my identity. Besides, my father's name looks good with mine. A combination of my name along with my husband's surname didnt sound good at all.
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If that’s the reason, why doesn’t anyone consider the guy changing it?
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^ Yes, yes....
It must always be the woman who has to show respect, obedience, blah di blah
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Its kinda historical tradition, women taking men's name. If u see Russians (& many Slav nations) they put OVA after a female name, OVA literally means, Somes, simple example is
Man: Lallo Parshad (delibratedly choosen this name)
Wife or Daughter : {Firstname of female} Parshadova (means Parshad's woman).
In Muslim countries, mostly (I dont know far easty, only know about PK/India/Arabic Countries) we also put a section (column) "wife/daughter of". That elimiates Muslims using husband's surname, because she can have her own surname (can put husband's name in the following column/section).
So if a woman likes to keep her name as her father's surname, sure she can & she should. But traditionally women change to husband's surname.
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I took my hubbys surname and was happy to do so.
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I also took my husband's surname, and added it after my own. (I have a hypenated last name now). It makes things so much easier with the paperwork, and in rural areas, a lot of people assume that you are just living together if you don't have the same surname.
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i don't think it really matters. its a personal decision. i would like to take my husband's surname :)
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Err i don’t think i will 
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Islamically a women has the right to keep her last name. On the Day of Judgement I will be called upon by my fathers name. therefore I intend on keeping my fathers name. :)
certainly i wouldnt be pleased with a man who wants to force me into changing my last name.
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um no, ull be called by ur mothers name.
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is that u hiccup?
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uh no! get ur facts straight buddy :)
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I had to change my name to totally another, took me 2 years to get used to it.
Well hubby's last name was his fathers first name, me didnt like it, BUT due to our law I had to change as I married in pakistan and didnt tell them this before ..
Well, I took another name, we both are okay with it, my daughter has his last name/granddad's first name, I think if you are born with a name, its actually easier to get used to a name as someone who had a name and has to change it to another.
But had he a name that matched mines nicely I would have changed but I didnt wanted a name that didnt really matched and I felt uncomfortable with.
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Islamically, the woman has no obligation to take her husband's name. The practice of the wife taking the husband's name was in order to identify the woman's 'owner' since women were considered property. So before marriage she was her father's property and after marriage she was her husband's property.