Salaam everyone,
I read namaz five times a day. My husband does not read at all he only attends Friday prayers I do encourage him to read namaz and now my child is 12 years old I tell him to read namaz but he says daddy doesnt read namaz, i then say to him your dad says he will in near future I dont know how to explain my child. I want my children to read namaaz and become good muslims and stay away from commiting sins.
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You need to discuss this with your husband, he needs to know how his negative behaviour is impacting on the religious development of your children. Also why does your child not respect you enough to follow what you say, my father in law never prayers and all my brother & sister in laws pray 5 times a day because they listened to what their mom said.
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Thats a nice example ^
And when u read namaz tell him (ur son) to read with you.... and he'll then start reading regularly INSHALLAH.
And im sorry can't really think of something else, im sure people will have good stories to help you out! :)
Good Luck! May Allah Tallah guide us to the right path. Ameen....
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Thread moved to right section :)
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My husband doesn't read namaz either. But I tell my 9 year old that its wrong not to and I do read the namaz so he should too. If daddy isn't reading namaz its a matter between him and Allah only.
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guys... what if the kid rebels? they can easily say ya my prayer is between me and my god too, kust like dad's or i dont care if you are doing it, if dad isnt i am not either etc etc
shouldn't dad have to answer such questions instead of the mom so he can see the damage he is doing?
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It would be helpful for the child if the parents to get on the same page. There is an issue if one parent doesn't believe in importance of prayer regularly while the other does.
I would have him stand next to the mother while she prays. I agree with khawa too that Dad should address the issue as well
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It seems to be a delicate situation.I have no idea how I will tackle it if it were me.You just don’t want to say anything to the child which will make him think any less of his father,in any way or make him rebel.
I opened a thread about this a while ago.I guess its not hypothetical after all.
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/parenting/351280-hypothetical-situation.html
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Both parents need to be on the same page as much as possible. You need to discuss this with your husband without sounding religiously superior to him. As his views on how to handle this.
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guys... what if the kid rebels? they can easily say ya my prayer is between me and my god too, kust like dad's or i dont care if you are doing it, if dad isnt i am not either etc etc
shouldn't dad have to answer such questions instead of the mom so he can see the damage he is doing?
So far my son hasn't said that. Yes, in an ideal situation thedad should be answearble too but many situations arise when the parents are not on the same page as far as parenting is concerned. If left to my husband, my son would not go to Sunday school at all . But as he goes there, my little one knows its a good thing to read namaz. Someone has to address the issue. If at the end of it teh child does not read namaz, at least you would know that you gave it your best.