I apologise if my post offends and bhabis-to-be.
We live in the UK, and some family friends of ours told us about a really nice family in Pakistan with a daughter who they think would be suitable for my brother.
My aunty passed on her email address and I exchanged some emails with her, let’s call her Miss X.
She told me she was coming to the UK for work, which was the perfect opportunity to meet her… cool.
A few days before she came to the UK my mum got seriously ill and was admitted in to hospital.
She had routine surgery done the week before and the wound got septic. During her first week in hospital my mum had a further three operations to wash the wound out. It was worrying, mum is in her late 60’s, her heart is not perfect and then being under general anaesthetic 3 times in a week! She was on IV antibiotics four times a day, which she was on for four weeks, and then changed to oral antibiotics which she was taking for a further four weeks. Anway to cut it short, my mum was seriously ill, she could have died from blood poisoning and the medication was making her sick at least once a day etc. So we were all worried about her and I was spending every evening in the hospital with her going straight from work and not getting home til about 10 pm.
Anyways I remembered Miss X was in the UK and I emailed her.
She replied and told me which days she would be in London. I read the email but to be honest, I forgot, too stressed out about mum etc.
A few days before she was leaving the UK, my mum spoke to her phupo on the phone and explained she was ill.
I then emailed her, apologising, saying that it was my fault, that she did give me the dates she was in London and that I had been pre-occupied with mum etc.
I got no reply.
I then emailed her again, asking if she got home (Pakistan) safely, asking how her rozai were going, again saying that I was gutted I never got to meet her (again basically saying that it was fault for not reading her email properly).
I got no reply.
My mum just spoke to my Aunty and my Aunty said that Miss X was annoyed with me, that I had sent her a “harsh” email which she would be showing to my Aunty.
I logged on to my Hotmail and looked in my sent folder, re-read the last two emails that I had sent to her, making sure I had not written anything that she could take the wrong way.
Both emails were polite, I asked her how she was, how her work was.
No personal attacks against her, nothing nasty.
In both of them I mentioned that I wish we could have met, and then followed it by saying that it was my own fault for not reading her email properly, so that she would know that I really wanted to meet her.
My point is that we’ve never even met her and she is showing all these nakhrai now.
God knows what she would have been like had she married my brother.
I’m sick of people continuously bashing the nands.
Anyway, I just had to put this somewhere I was fuming,
I have been nothing but polite and friendly to this girl.
Ok, my rant is now over.
Thanks for reading.