I decided not to have a large hall mehndi because I cant afford it and also its just a bit OTT for me.
I am going for a small myoon at home, we will decorate our house. 20 people from susraal and 20 of my own family and friends are invited. My husband to be will not attend. It is womens only for most of it but once some people have left im sure my family will all end up sitting together late into the night.
What can we do to make it fun? and look fun?
There will be singing obviously and maybe one or two short dances, i do not want the main thing to be people watching dance performances.
seriously you are thinking right
in past times Mehndi was most awaited event of wedding because of fully family function and lot of rassams
now we brought it too in halls where time is limited and formalization.
pesonaly i think mehndi should be more enjoyable
decorate your house with beautiful flowers
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i will suggest dont hire dancers or singer
just a DJ if requird otherwise dhool wala will be best enough.
ask your cousins sister to sing desi tappa peice of singing and many more
rassams are known as tail mehndi etc
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for food on mehndi
i've realised specially our clients want tradationol food n mehndi like live tika kbaba halwa ppori chany
kachori etc. (only for mehndi mayoon)
you also should go for Halwa Puri Kachor, Pathora,s Live Tika Kabab, and what else traditional you want
it will add awesome memories
because next two days you are going to have regular food so have some change
for food on mehndi
i've realised specially our clients want tradationol food n mehndi like live tika kbaba halwa ppori chany
kachori etc. (only for mehndi mayoon)
you also should go for Halwa Puri Kachor, Pathora,s Live Tika Kabab, and what else traditional you want
it will add awesome memories
because next two days you are going to have regular food so have some change
you might want to get to know the location and the planned events a bit better before offering "live tikka kabab" as an option......
Biriyani and karhai, kebabs and then puri cholay, allooo and halwa and firni/kheer for dessert - my mum is making everything apart from biriyani, kebabs and puri.
We wll decorate the house with lights and candles and loads of yellow and gold.
Rasms will be ubtan on me, some i think they are called 'sehra' those funny poems read out, singing and 1 or 2 informal dance performances and then mehndi on people and on me during the mayoon
Then some guests will leave and our family will remain and just chilling out and chatting.
Yay! sounds perfect to me. Try get a dholki to sing some traditional songs. Don't ge ta DJ for the house, just make your own mix on a CD and ask a cousin/friend to play it for you.
Biriyani and karhai, kebabs and then puri cholay, allooo and halwa and firni/kheer for dessert - my mum is making everything apart from biriyani, kebabs and puri.
We wll decorate the house with lights and candles and loads of yellow and gold.
Rasms will be ubtan on me, some i think they are called 'sehra' those funny poems read out, singing and 1 or 2 informal dance performances and then mehndi on people and on me during the mayoon
Then some guests will leave and our family will remain and just chilling out and chatting.
Don't over-plan too much, just try to get everyone to have fun. Playing dholki songs or doing antakshari always breaks the ice, and it's fun too.
You could have dandiya sticks for simple dances? Or a few games like pass the parcel, or pass a cushion around to music and when it stops, the person holding it has to do something like a song/poetry/dance etc?
Keep the rasms simple like feeding you or putting mehndi on your hand, otherwise it gets messy.
I saw something on youtube which I loved, which was a sketch put together by the brides friends of the bride-and-groom and how they met, very cute and funny - could try that?
I lovvvvve small and simple mehndis. It makes every single affair much more intimate and FUN!
You can do dances, singing, dholki, antakshri, rasms, free style dancing...trust me...you might not even get to all of these things simply because time flies when you're having fun.
Try to have someone who can keep the program moving and organized. I think that really helps.
I am worried that now a days its the bigger/louder/the more extravagant the better. A very very very close friend of my inlaws/husband just got married very recently and I feel insecure for some reason as she had a large mehndi with 10 dance performances and she was in 5 in a big hall with professional decor blah blah and everyone was raving about it.
I also have the issue that a couple of my uncles who are coming from pak disagree with singing/music etc :/ so worried