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I didn’t even make it that far down your post.
If it’s supposed to be a funny haha quotation, then I’m afraid the humour was lost on me after the first three swear words.
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True…the spouse should have the authority. But don’t you think that there should be some clause that suggests there be proof of what those wishes were? From what I understand, there is no written or taped will. Just the words of a man that would lose a hell of a lot if he had to get a divorce. The words of a man that ate away the million dollar settlement from a malpractice suit that should rightfully have been put towards his disabled wife’s rehabilitation.
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I agree UTD, I do, but the fact that she is being starved to death really bothers me. I am really torn over this one.
Munza - excellent point, one of the reason most of my family have living wills, so no one is ever in doubt about our wishes.
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so this is what happens to people after visiting the Dakotas?? Allah bachaye
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Muzna it’s been 15 years the court ordered doctors have declared her in a vegetation state that she cannot recover from. The courts have ruled in the husbands favor and it’s been 15 years, what more can you ask for.
Minah, doctors say that she will feel no pain, that the body shuts down it’s desire for food and water and that it is actually a peaceful way to go and it happens everyday in hospitals across the country without receiving this attention. The women has essentially been dead for 15 years.
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Weary after an emotional visit with his wife, Schiavo said he is astonished that politicians want to interfere in such a private matter.
“Instead of worrying about my wife, who was granted her wishes by the state courts the past seven years, they should worry about the pedophiles killing young girls,” Schiavo said, referring to a local case. “Why doesn’t Congress worry about people not having health insurance? Or the budget? Let’s talk about all the children who don’t have homes.”
He said U.S. House Majority Leader Tom DeLay, who is leading a charge to extend Terri Schiavo’s life, is a “little slithering snake” pandering for votes.
“To make comments that Terri would want to live, how do they know?” Schiavo said of the members of Congress who want to keep his wife alive.
“Have they ever met her?” Schiavo said. “What color are her eyes? What’s her middle name? What’s her favorite color? They don’t have any clue who Terri is. They should all be ashamed of themselves.”
Schiavo said he was going to stay at his wife’s side through the entire ordeal and said he wouldn’t back down in his fight to have her wishes carried out.
“Terri died 15 years ago,” Schiavo said, referring to the collapse and cardiac arrest that doctors say virtually destroyed her brain. “It’s time for her to be with the Lord like she wanted to be.”
http://www.sptimes.com/2005/03/20/Tampabay/Schiavo___Come_down__.shtml
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a-jee, can i move you to my green house and pull the plug when i'm done harvesting and ebaying your kidneys etc. at liesure?
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That’s sounds bit too intimate than what we’d like to believe.
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Roman-jee, let queer be.
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okey i know for muslims, the decision is in the hand of Allah and i dont thnk there should be any tempering done like pulling out the tubes, getting the person off the life supply etc. But its very hard situation to deal with when you see your love one in this kind of state. I would personally rather accept death then be tied up to these things :(
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Count me in
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I guess I’m only asking that we let God decide what she will die of. It would be inhumane to stop feeding her. Just as we cannot determine if she wants to live, we can no better determine if she wants to die.
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My husband told me last night that it is up to Allah when someone dies, I said, when those rules were made there was no such thing as a feeding tube and if it was truly up to Allah (God) in that sense, she would have been dead a long time ago.
I expected the ruling that was handed down from the federal courts and a bit relieved, intervention would have caused a bad precedent.
I would feel better if she was euthanized, even that is a bit more humane than starvation.
Oh well
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Please don't get me wrong, I believe in modern medicine and I also do believe that it has come a long way to add value to human life but there are many instances where it prolong life but the quality of life isn't worth living. This is not to say that it is modern medicines fault but it also doesn't mean that just because you are breathing it is "life" as we know it.
Ms. Schiavo is unfortunate that she couldn't clarify her wishes before the incident and I hope no one else gets into the same situation.
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Exactly! Is Terri alive? That is the key question. Her parents believe that firmly. They talk of her as laughing and responding. Doctors say that is impossible.
I think it is better to err on the side of safety. As far as we know, she isn't in any pain. Given that, it is probably better to keep her alive. But in the end it is her family's call.
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Aisha - that is the problem. It isn't up to the family, it is up to the spouse and both disagree about what should be done. And one of the things we don't know is how much pain she is in and what she feels.
I just don't understand why the husband just doesn't hand over rights to the parents. I know the arguement, but even that is better than starving someone legally.
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Dear Aisha,
I agree with you. Better to err on the side of safety.
Seeing videos of Terri that have been broadcast…opening her eyes…blinking…moving her head…some facial expressions…says to me that she is a living breathing human being… like an infant but not a veggie.
It’s heart wrenching because clearly she is not the Terri she was.
Case is difficult because the husband and parents disagree on her care.
I think Terri’s husband should go on with his life and leave decisions on Terri’s care to her parents as they have had more years with Terri than he.
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As her husband he has a duty to make sure her wishes are fullfilled.
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How can we know for sure what her wishes are??
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I'm inclined not to believe the husband.....especially if the patient is showing signs of some awareness of what's going on around her.
If she's been this way for 15 years that doesn't mean that things will never change.