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[Shagird]

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[Shagird]

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@rx988

Thanks for sharing your story! make sure you share it with your future wife too.

lol i hope youre kidding

[Iconoclast]

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And the point is?

[Shagird]

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@OYMWA This really made me think man. Appreciate the wise words.
@ROLLA coasta…yes i am content with decision. its something i have to live with. When i told my dad he asked me why i didnt go through with it? and i told him it was because of you and mom. He then asked what would i have done if him and my mom werent here in the world and i told him that i would be with her right. i think it was tough for him to hear this because hes from a different generation so he probably didnt understand it fully either but i know he did his best and he was supportive…and yes i am in the last year of my engineering degree so my career is about to take off.
@paheli yes. thank you for pointing out the obvious. I did invite it. I am aware i am at fault. I was fully aware when i was doing it also. my decisions shape my life so i can put it on me and life. I am not trying to get sympathy for my actions, so apologies if i came off that way. I was just telling my story.
@SummerFruits thanks for the optimism man. I was not intimidated by my parents. i just care about their happiness too much. I know some pakis who have married non muslims too but i couldnt find that in me. I am graduating this year hopefully i will have a job too so it was not like i have to rely on my parents. I couldve gone through with this and lived my own life but i couldnt do that to them. Hopefully i meet someone i can be sure of to take to my parents, but until then i am definitely staying away from all this.

[Shagird]

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@Deeba1234

Erm brown really isn’t the only way to go..

If you* really* liked her you prob would have at least tried talking to your parents.. at least once..

@OYMWA

There is a lesson in here; learn it and move on. And the lesson is, never ride two boats at the same time. Either pick the desi boat or the western boat. If you try to ride both, chances are you will end up in neither.

@rolla_coaster

What did your dad say?

I guess you are content with what you did or have done. That’s what matters most. Other 22 years Olds are being much more idiotic.

Now would be a good time you can focus on a career.

@Paheli00

Actually, in your case, YOU created this obstacle. YOU invited this “demon” into your own life even after knowing what the consequences would be. In regards to this particularity situation, you chose to make it a “wild ride”. Don’t put it on “life” or anyone else for the path YOU chose to follow.

@SummerFruits

Preach it.

you may meet someone new that you feel just as strongly about. you never know. orrr you could’ve just introduced her to your parents. There’s plenty of brown girls and guys that are in relationships/engaged or married to non-brown people. I know plenty. Did you even talk about this girl to your parents? or were you just too intimidated by their possible refusal?

@Iconoclast

And the point is?

there is none

[Shagird]

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as you can tell i dont know how to post the multi quotes in one reply lol

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@OYMWA

Yeah..and call it misery..

You can name yours whatever you want to. I’m call mine “Chamak Challo”.

[Xtron]

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Well..buddy..i ain’t judging you. Power to you by learning from your mistake..whatever it is. I hope this makes you better person. At the end of the day..that matters. You learn from your short comings..and since you’re only 22..i hope..ya’ll be mindful of repeating such stuff.

Not related to OP and it is bit different topic. But i often have problem with people who go date around white, black, brown..whatever..And pher..aakhir main..seedhi saadhi Larki say shadi karna hotee hai. I don’t have problem with people choosing to marry whomever or whatever..but i have problem with hypocrisy.

[Shagird]

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@Xtron

Well..buddy..i ain’t judging you. Power to you by learning from your mistake..whatever it is. I hope this makes you better person. At the end of the day..that matters. You learn from your short comings..and since you’re only 22..i hope..ya’ll be mindful of repeating such stuff.

Not related to OP and it is bit different topic. But i often have problem with people who go date around white, black, brown..whatever..And pher..aakhir main..seedhi saadhi Larki say shadi karna hotee hai. I don’t have problem with people choosing to marry whomever or whatever..but i have problem with hypocrisy.

Thank you. I would consider it a mistake, though i did learn many lessons through it.

Yea i know a couple people like that think as long as its on the DL live it up till its time to get a girl from pakistan lol. At the end of the day it’s their life and they choose to live it how ever they please, just like we all do.

[NaMaan]

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Experiences are priceless.

[Paa_Jee]

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@Shagird

yupp you couldnt be more right because no feeling is final. Brown really is the way to go but Im 22 and im bald…pretty good looking for a bald guy nonetheless according to people. I know how brown chicks feel about bald guys, but ight i guess because it doesnt bother me. All i can really hope for is a better future by not repeating the same mistakes.

My bro, you could be bald and not have a leg or missing vital organ of reproduction. If you have money to show they’ll come crawling! High Feeezah!

[aramis]

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U shd a gone for her. Its not everyday u find ur match. Sad

[Shagird]

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@aramis

U shd a gone for her. Its not everyday u find ur match. Sad

Yes I should have because idk if i will meet someone like that again. So I wanted to. I really really wanted to, but i didn’t. It is something I have to live with.

[Gujranwalay]

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@Shagird

I found this forum and I thought it was pretty cool. Since i dont know any of you, i dont mind sharing my story with you guys.

Im a Pakistani living in USA (duhh right). I started dating a white girl 4.5 years ago. She was awesome. She was fun. She as easy to talk to. She was the perfect girl. After 4 months of dating I broke up with her because i knew in my heart that i would not be able to take her to my parents. She knew this, not the breaking up part but the part about my parents. She still wanted to be with me and it just couldnt be. so i had to break it off. After a couple months being away from each other, we started talking gain and it was right back to where we started, but this time we pretended that we are not in an official relationship. We spent the next 3 years together…being together but not really being together. We both knew what we were getting ourselves into but did it anyways. I fell for her…she fell for me…but we never said it to each other…I didnt because it wasnt fair to her. She deserved better. I wanted her to move on, but i thought maybe if i said that i love her it wouldve made things difficult for her. We both knew how much we cared for each other, but as time went along especially towards the end I think she just lost hope that there really wasnt a future of us together. One day came (september of 2014) she told me we should stop this. A week later she tells me she is seeing someone else. It broke my heart. Even though i knew this day was going to come sooner or later it still broke me down. My life was turned upside down. It still sort of is, but im learning to live with it. I couldnt be with her because of my parents. I couldnt do that to my parents (desi parents lol). It was too much to bear on my own so i told my dad one day about everything. About how much i loved her but i let her go and now shes with someone else and its because i didnt want to dissappoint you…She really was the perfect girl. If circumstances were different i could imagine living all my life with her. Shes gone now and Im still here. I have broken all contact with her but she is doing better than me.

Life is a wild ride. It takes us around many different turns. We all run into obstacles, some more challenging than others, but we all have our demons. This was mine.

Like i said i dont know any of you so it wont be shocking if none of you give a crap about this lol but its something i wanted to share.

That’s life bro. You can’t have it all without the pains.

InshAllah you’ll find someone you can spend life with. Pray namaz, go do Umrah, etc it will help you move on and be a better person.

[aramis]

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Yea watch sher e zaat. Lol

[SaltySeashell]

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Just marry a chitti kuri who looks gori and you will be heppy