This is so unfair. Munni getting advice from all over the world and poor 'rishta' is gonna face the whole Munni by himself. tsk tsk. Give me your rishta's email addy...lemme give him a few pointers :-p
I hope everything goes well...just don't build too much expectations, both of you are humans after all. When you are making a decision make sure you do what is best for both of you.
By the way, is this your first meeting?
Boss, yes, first meeting. big smile
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My word, look at all you pros offering your expert advice!
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You guys should open up a rishta office!
Cat… now u know. When ur time comes, where to come for advice.
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And none of that during the meeting as well. I mean, don’t offer him something dubious.
One of my friends (guy ofcourse) was on the other side of the table once, and he went to see this perspective finacee. The gal shocked his socks off by making this statement in the first five minutes:
:-o
Dont talk about your EX.
Jiyo Aur Jeene Do!!!
Pristine,
I've already discussed the cooking issue with him. smile
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Meaning, you have already chatted with him?
And surely he has seen your pic?
Then 90% mulaqaat has already happened. Why are you worried?
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ps. What did you tell him about cooking? That you are qualified to be the chief chef of Ritz Carlton or that, you’d rather eat out at a nice restaurant than make a mess in the kitchen?
Pristine,
Yes, we have chatted on the phone. However, the picture his family saw of me was not a full-length photo. Therefore I have serious concerns!
About the cooking, I told him that I can cook if he wants me to, and/or if I have to. He suggested something else. Hehe.
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Yes, we have chatted on the phone. However, the picture his family saw of me was not a full-length photo. Therefore I have serious concerns!
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and why may I ask???
Shirin,
Which part would you like me to answer? The part of the photo, my concerns, or us chatting? smile
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Munni dear, I cannot wait for you to get married - at least you'd finally start calling him anything but 'rishta'.
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*Shirin,
Which part would you like me to answer? The part of the photo, my concerns, or us chatting? *smile
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You are making me more and more curious...
I meant originally the part about the photo, but now I'd also love to know the rest!
Yeah Munni, come on tell us everything!! It all sounds so interesting and we want an update on how it went asap!
Btw, do you get Asian Woman magazine where you live? It's a British magazine and they also produce a magazine called Asian Bride - it's really a must for any girl getting married!!
Roman, somehow I knew you would complain. Hehe. smile
Shirin,
Now that I think of it, we did send them a full-length. I have sent him so many after that (online from my digital camera) that I had forgotten it. We sent three, 2 close-ups and one full-length. However, the full length was from a year ago, thus my concerns now with my weight.
We have been chatting once a week steadily now for quite awhile. Therefore I have gotten to know and like him very much. The wonderful thing is that he never really goes into deep subjects or issues. He keeps the conversation light and short. I'm always wanting more, but I believe its better this way. I will find out all about him shadi ke baad. At the beginning we discussed major concerns/issues and we still do from time to time. smile
cat-woman, hehe. I've told enough for now, and I will be sure to keep you all updated! Thank you for allowing me to share my excitement with you all.
I dont know if they have Asian Woman or Asian Bride, however I should definately be looking into Asian Bride starting next week, assuming all goes well, Insha'Allah! Thanks for the suggestion! smile
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Some perspectives from an Islamic point of view. Maybe they'll help you, maybe not. Here goes:
It seems that the two of you arent nikah-ified. And then the following should be interesting.
Even if he is ur rishta, or husband too be, he is not that for the time beeing. Therefor you will have to abide by all the purdah-rules that would apply to any male stranger.
Keeping that in mind wearing makeup would not be in harmony with what Islam teaches us. It is prohibited to wear makeup in front of male strangers. One problem solved.
As far as clothes are concerned, you should wear ordinary clothes, which arent attractive, in any manner. Wearing eye-catchy clothes or any other attractive, purdah-violating piece of garment would be unislamic. Second problem solved.
The communication should be formal, and not jollyious. Neither should it have some sort of flirtous tone. Furthermore it should be consise and strictly to the point. Third problem solved.
This applies to you if you are not nikah-ified with ur rishta. If you are these rules will not apply to you. But it should be interesting to other "engaged" couples.
Engagements have no importance or status in Islam, whatsoever.
Hope it helps.
ws
~Survival of the smartest~
aMigo,
Thank you for that advice.
I will just say that I am not at the level I wish to be in terms of my islam. It is why I posted in the Religion forum about my indecision on a particular path to follow. In other words, I am not yet where I want to be although the ultimate goal is there. A lot of confusion remains as to how to get there. Therefore I still participate in what some may deem as 'western' or even 'un-islamic' practises.
Regardless, thanks for sharing!
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Btw, do you get Asian Woman magazine where you live? It's a British magazine and they also produce a magazine called Asian Bride - it's really a must for any girl getting married!!
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And Cat-woman you this because???? Should we be getting ready ????
haha! no, not quite yet I’m afraid, but there’s no harm in looking at them.
*dies laffing!!! lol
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[Related by Imam Muslim]
I have never in my life accept to see a rishta. Everytime one came I never went to see him, because that’s just how I am. I have always said if I was to get married it would be someone I have gotten to know very well and he tells me that he will come to ask for my hand. So, all the rest of the guys I never even let them see me. At times when someone tells me “we know someone who wants to come, or I know someone great,” I just act rude and say I never want to get married, then they dont show up. But this is just me.