Sometimes we reject and other times we get rejected…but we only feel the pain when we are being rejected! You got so many good advices already. Yep this is life and I think he was not the one for you and whatever happens is for the best.
Cheer up girly
I agree with ChanMahi and andha qanoon....he is total jerk and can't make his own decision of life but since you have talked to him in the past, do call him and ask him why it happened and then dumb him in the garbage. There are always new people u'll meet.
You are right…they could have been a lil more courteous and have let known you guys…but that was not to be.
Oh, inshallah, everything will work out for the better. Aameen.
Aap bas tEnSiOn na lein, acha?
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Kambakht Ishq!
I know how u feel
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Unfortunately I’ve been through all that myself.
I came in the corner room to read abt ur rishta…ur 1st thread that is…
Then I saw this one…
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Can’t u contact the guy and talk to him?..Let him answer ur questions?!..
He ows u that!
Take care…and good luck dear
Munni, I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through.
Everybody has given great advice so I won't add anything.
Chin up. You'll find someone incredible.
Blessed be,
S
Thank you all for your advice, suggestions, and posts. Indeed this is a difficult time for me, but like many of you said, this time will pass, and hopefully Allah has something and someone wonderful for me in the future. This goes for all the boys and girls out there looking for their special someone, that have gone through similar trials.
Everyone around my house is quiet on the subject yet I know they feel hurt too and at the same time they wish to console me on this matter. I am trying to be strong so that they may take some strength from me, and their being strong gives me strength in return.
Hearing what everyone here has to say also gives me strength and I thank you for listening to my story and offering your sincere advice.
I am already starting to think ahead. I am going to continue my search and at the same time look for work. This has been a great lesson for me, and hopefully it will bring me closer to my Creator.
Again, thank you all for your kind words and thoughts...Mash'Allah you are all so nice.
Learn to love yourself, then learn to love one-another
My dear sister, dont be sad. Do not look at the sower casting seed, but remember what will grow from it. If today there is a thorn blocking your way, tomorrow's thorns become a blossoming rose. Don't be sad, don't let your heart become heavy and do not think that you have no one else. Remember God? He is the companion of those who have no other friends. He is the best of planners.
Despair may lead to hope just as night leads to dawn, if only you have faith. Bliss can undo all knots, its the turquoise in the seal of God. It will come to you, only you must have patience.
And may I ask something if you dont mind me askingg, how did you meet this young man?
Wa Salam
Oh .. dont feel bad.. he probably found someone richer.. after all thats what arranged marriages are like these days.
Dont feel bad tho' .. i mean can you imagine you almost married this loser? If i were you , i'd be happy that i got out of it now b4 it was too late.. dahlin' there are plenty of fish in the sea .. dont waste any more tears on him .
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Ah, OK, if you needed that I'm glad I was there. Feel better now?
But there's a special one for Munni... take care!
Hmm i am sorry Munni to hear that. Its sad and have to say thats a pathetic move from the boys family. Loosers, i would gladely give thewm a beating up, but that wouldnt help mutch dp thinks. But be strong, and u will INsha-Allah be happy, ( and what goes around comes around )
Okay. I’m sure Munni has healed a bit by now.
so you still have his Credit Card no. Munni?? i heard paybacks are hell
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sad indeed...very sad...i dont thinks words will help...and me can imagine the emptyness u must be feeling, and the feeling that ur life has just been reset to 0 again.
Have faith.
Munni,
I’ve been through this and know how you must be feeling but Hayaa is right, you’ll look back at this experience and will laugh at it. Its a growing experience, and we need a few of these to help us grow. You’re gonna analyze all that has happened and you’ll see the signs of where things weren’t right and next time apt to pick these signs up faster.
Also, this will help you to think and figure yourself out which is so very important when you are looking for someone b/c that person needs to compliment you so that as a couple you’re complete.
Getting attached to someone and losing him always hurts but the hurt fades especially when you realize that he wasn’t it. A big hug for you!
Hey munni:
firstly, Sorry to hear about your "rishta." and how things didn;t work out.
Secondly, I think the guy, along with the famnily, were a bunch of idiots. If you guys have been talking all this time and I guess him and his parents had prolly seen you (they did, no?!?), then there never should have been a formal larki dekhnay a'a rahay hain. This whole business of larki dhaiknay jaana like guy & bakri then moon latka kay a'ajana is plain bull **** in our culture. If anything, women (especially the mothers of the sons) should take a stand on this. But I guess they forget the torment they went through when they were at that age and had to line up as objects infront of larkay ki a'mma acting all nice and innocent.
Be glad that you're not marryign into this family because you'd prolly had to deal with such shallow in-laws. IMO, you got lucky here!
As for the guy, if you ever see him again, look him in the eye (don't ever try to hide) and know that you're lucky he's not your finace or husband.
And lastly, you're a sweet girl and deserve an equally sweet guy.
p.s. if you need somebody to slap this jerk of a would-be-husband around a bit, drop me an e-mail with his addy.
Ciao
Munni you’re a real sweet gal and you know if they didn’t have the courtesy to get back to you then their loss!
Which ever family you become a part of will be soo lucky to have you, and if those idiots couldn’t see what a wonderful and special gal you are then it’s their stupidity!
You remember something… youy didn’t loose anything! THEY DID!
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God knows best!
SubMit tO tHe MADNESS!!
The only thing I would share in this regard.
It is great for you that it happened before it started. Looser ran away, he and his family would be struggling having their heads in the mud finding a nice girl.
Take care
Sorry to hear munni, he probably wasn't worth it.
Sigh, yet another downfall of the arranged marriage system.
…and whatever happens do NOT define
yourself by any loser judgement those ppl.
or that guy has of u if any…and NEVER feel pulled down or compelled to underestimate yourself or your family in ANY way b/c some ppl. r just not worth it.
Better now then later eh?
now come on smile, after all tomorrow is another day…
just think of it as putting the garbage out
…once its out u dont worry about it…
it’ll get picked…when? u don’t need to know
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cheer up
lots of dua’ain…
Kay hum tu Dhoop main baarishh kay woh qatray hain jo gir ker, dar-o-deevar per hi sookh jaatay hain…
Munni!!!
I didnt had a long look.i just saw few lines after few......
even those lines were so hard to read........
God do everything wt is better for us.......even here....all wt happened is better then that wt was going to happen.......i really dont know wt to say.......i came here in corner after u told that u were posting here.......this was first time and might be last time.........i m sure ill never come to this thread again........lots of luv for you........hugs and kisses for you......my sis.....we all love you....all of us are with you........luv u ...ur brother......M.M
Best Place to kill your time is WWWeb.
Awwwww Mohsin...that is soooooooooo...sweet.....
Munni behn...I wish you all the best in future...I hope a Mr. Right will come in your life and make you really happy!.....Please dont be sad.....That post was disturbing....
You have us as bros and sis we'll help you thru this ok?.....
Take care!