I have a pet. I try and look after her as much as I can. Every morning I will greet her and make her breakfast. I will ask how she is feeling throughout the day and make sure she’s comfortable. I will take her out for walks if she’s getting restless at home. Sometimes I will engage in activities with her during the day to spend time with her. I will make her favourite meal at mealtimes and wash up after her.
I try and treat my pet as nicely as I can… but I don’t love her. I find it really hard living with her because she’s not my own. Because I’m not used to living with her. Maybe because she’s new to me? Maybe after a few years she will grow on me, and then I will really love her, and will no longer think of her as my pet, but as my MIL… but for now, in my eyes, I can only see her as my pet. So I will try and treat my pet the best way I can, and insh’Allah things will work out in the long run.
I know. I know. I don't mean it in a bad way. I'm sorry if it comes across as that and sorry if people may find it offensive. What I mean is, I find it really hard to love her and spend time with her. My husband wants her here, but I have said very clearly from the beginning that I don't want her here, and because of that disagreement there's tension in our home. So now my new approach is to take myself emotionally out of the situation and look at it from this perspective. It seems to be working so far, because I'm able to do all the things I'm 'supposed' to do for my MIL, but without any of the emotional attachment. And I'm hoping that with time, things will inshAllah change and I won't think of it like that any more - rather I will love her as my MIL (maybe even my own mother??) That's my intention.
[note] nnabid: You haven't posted a question or stated what exactly you want us to "discuss". This sounds like it should be under blogs. You seem to be just sharing your thoughts/solution to your problem.
I'm closing this thread for now. If you would like to add something specific for us to discuss/pose some questions on this and want the thread re-opened, please PM me. Thank you. [/note]