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Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Is this neighbor a gori? I mean in the West people have different behaviors which don’t essentially mean they are flirting.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
try to the be like a lotus flower for hasband. nothing bed will heppan.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
I think you may be overreacting. if it’s just smiles and chatting, it isn’t necessarily flirting. Do they spend any time together when you’re not around?
Have you discussed it with your husband? If it is indeed flirting, then it is two-sided and the easiest way to deal with it would be talking to your husband. Explain your concerns and just straight up tell him that him being so familiar with another woman makes you feel uncomfortable.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
This may not be flirting. More like being friendly. You have to be tactical about this in order to make sure it isn’t really flirting, otherwise you could damage your relationship with your husband due to a lack of trust as well as falsely accusing your neighbour.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
No she isn’t a gori she from Pakistan and came in uk to join her spouse and they have two daughters.
My husband from Pakistan so they both have something in common.
He gets on well with her and once she came over for few seconds to call her mother in law from my house she then suddenly went off without sitting down my husband seen her and he followed her to the door to say bye I found that very strange.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
I don’t want accuse I just don’t want them to be in the same room the thing is I just don’t know how to tell her I don’t want her to visit my home and that just be friends outside.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Couple of times when she knows I’m out because my cars not in the drive she rings my home number I know this because I have a caller list I check when I come home who’s been trying to call me and her numbers in the list.
I asked did you call me she says oh I thought you was home I found that very strange I mean she calls me from the room she can see my cars not there.
She definitely wants to chat to him because she thinks his avoiding her lol because I don’t let him on the room and she asks about him I tell her he is busy with garden shed.
Why would she call for your husband at your home number, when they are already secretly snap chatting each other?
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Sounds like you need to talk to your husband. Or pee on him to mark your territory. Either way, take pictures.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Doesn’t seem good. Try to limit contact with her.
… and him. Punish that cheater.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Whether it’s flirting or not…it doesn’t matter. If you’ve expressed to your husband that it makes you uncomfortable, then he should stop interacting with her unnecessarily. It’ s not like she’s his coworker or his relative with whom he has to maintain contact with. Tell him about the strange behavior that you noticed in her and that it makes you uneasy and request him to keep a distance. It seems you’ve already spoken to him about this because by your own admission your neighbor has sensed that he is “avoiding” her…and if husband is doing so out of consideration for you, then it’s a good thing AH.
The next time this neighbornee calls you when you are out of the home…return her call and confront her. It need not be nasty. You can be civil but firm. But you should definitely call her out on it by asking her why she frequently feels the need to call when you’re away from home and who exactly from your household she wishes to speak with. It’ll make her squirm 
and hopefully she’ll get the message. If not, reinforce it by telling her that firstly you tend to be very busy even when you’re at home and that if it is absolutely “zaroori” for her to call or make a visit…that she should do so when you are also at home as it’s just more appropriate that way and you can better assist her. :halo: 
That way you’re setting a boundary and you’re also letting her know indirectly that you’re busy and not that open to entertaining guests. She should get it then. Hopefully.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
so disrespectful of your husband and that woman. I wonder what would happen if you started flirting with her husband (don’t do it) but seriously. You should stop hanging out with her completely since she has no respect for your relationship.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Show him gone girl. Then ask him if he loves you.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
You need to be straight and up front with your husband. Tell him her behavior makes you uncomfortable and his as well. Then talk to her. I know it’s important to be kind to neighbors but restrict it to saying his and hellos from outside. You want to send her halwa, sure, go to her house, give it and come back. Reduce the reasons she has to come into your house. Be firm with her like redvelvet said. It’s the only way to handle the situation. She’s married herself. Her behavior is not becoming of married women. But most of all, be up front with your husband. His behavior isn’t good either.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
instead of making an excuse that your husband is busy with things, can you be a little direct with her and tell her that he isn’t interested to join the women talk and that it is not appreciated in your setup that men mixes in friendly way with opposite gender who are not family.
Also, tell your husband to limit himself only to doing Salam when he comes across her inside your house or on the street etc.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
She will say then oh how come he was interested before.
Thanks I will tell him to limit himself only to do salaam.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Thanks for your advise I will just do that and really appreciate for everyone’s advise.
Re: My neighbour flirts with my husband
Go with your gut, the gut is right most of the time when it comes to such matters. It takes a second for flirting to turn into something inappropriate - it is best advised that once married, a person refrain as much as possible from having one on one friendships with members of the opposite sex, anyone who disagrees, watch harry met sally or you must be frigid and have a low libido or excellent self control. There is no way a man with a healthy libido can be just friends with a member of the opposite sex without as least wondering what she is like under the covers - every female friend I’ve ever had since I hit puberty, I’ve always wondered what they’re like in the sack. Heck I’ve even ruined friendships with girls due to getting it on when flirting led to something else. It is what it is.