If her parents were as strict and oppressive as she said they were, THERE WOULD BE NO WAY THEY WOULD ALLOW HER TO MOVE OUT OF HOME TO GO TO UNIVERSITY, SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN FORCED TO COMMUTE.
I don't agree. I'm friends with a girl from Toronto whose parents never allow her to be out at night beyond 11pm, they have a strict curfew for her.
But they sent her off to medical school in another country altogether where they have no control over her. While she's at med school she would stay out all night long.
I wanna say mean things but you guys have pretty much got it covered. The abuse her parents put her through was physical but the abuse and disgrace she put her family through is even worse!
So she doesn’t blame her parents a tad bit, okayyy :halo: I don’t understand why she even felt the need to bring Islam into this. What her parents did was FAR from what Islam teaches and what she does is also far from it. She seems like an attention seeking loser and so do her parents.
I think you guys are being a bit harsh. She turned out the way she did because of her circumstances. In her mind what her parents have done to her is because of Islam. I mean being abused by relatives and getting the blame yourself, that happens. Having your father whip you, that happens. Brothers in a household getting much more freedom than their sisters, that happens. God forbid it happen to any of us, but if that's the kind of childhood we had, who knows how we would've turned out
I feel bad for her...she might have turned out different if it weren't for the kind of childhood and lifestyle she grew up with. It seems like she just stopped caring at a point. And yes- her dressing is way liberal and way extreme even for the most liberal girl. She doesn't really have any class
i think ppl in west just exagerrate abuse. in pak all kids esp boys get some physical punishments at schools, from quran qaris, at home n still not all turn out abusive or rebels or unrespectful. the naughty ones grew up in pak knows how it is ;) with time parents r getting linient but in old days they used to b extra strict n those generations r not disrespectful, actually respected elders more than our generations.
i think normally parents use these kinds of abuse with such hopeless kids . the more they frustrate parents the stricter they get but these stubborn heads don't learn any lessons n keep pushing their boundaries. sonay pe suhaga is all the wrong kind of support they get from western society. a kid who leans towards bad no matter how loving n caring u r with him/her he'll keep leaning to his interests n hardly turn around...kabhi Allah ne hidayat dai de tu... verna jitni freedom do they continue breaking parent's trust.
n i dunno but looking at her doesn't look she was brought up strict coz those kids hav low confidence. she has over confidence n her ways show she has real cheap thinking
blame ur parents - not Islam.. religion has nothing to do with this -
IMHO i think she just found it an easy route to blame the religion and become the centre of attention.. the media out there is HUNGRY for all this stuff - its the same with Asra Nomani.. fine she might have had it bad when she got married but it wasnt ISLAMs' fault - its sickening how easy it is to blame your religion because its an easy way out and not blame your parents or the society for the norms theyve set.. i understand Shariah has some strict rules for women but where is it now when your going on "kissing and telling" on national TV? i think maybe thats where ur parents TEACHING comes in & ur family values come in -
Abuse happens everywhere - physical, sexual, verbal - i think if we all put our heads together there might have been a time when our parents must have given us a good beating or 2.. but are we going all over the media and reciting our sob story to them - what her parents did was wrong.. but then again life is harsh - & if ur mother did hire a hitman to kill u where in Islam is it written to do that??
My ex-inlaws were planning to burn me alive, for my accidental death benefits - so do i go out and get someone to interview me about that too because trust me my story TOPS this one on every leap and bound & no Islam didnt have anything to do with it - Alhumdulillah if it werent for Islam, i wouldnt have been able to get out of tht hell hole -
some people here might disagree with me - but oh well!
blame ur parents - not Islam.. religion has nothing to do with this -
IMHO i think she just found it an easy route to blame the religion and become the centre of attention.. the media out there is HUNGRY for all this stuff - its the same with Asra Nomani.. fine she might have had it bad when she got married but it wasnt ISLAMs' fault - its sickening how easy it is to blame your religion because its an easy way out and not blame your parents or the society for the norms theyve set.. i understand Shariah has some strict rules for women but where is it now when your going on "kissing and telling" on national TV? i think maybe thats where ur parents TEACHING comes in & ur family values come in -
Abuse happens everywhere - physical, sexual, verbal - i think if we all put our heads together there might have been a time when our parents must have given us a good beating or 2.. but are we going all over the media and reciting our sob story to them - what her parents did was wrong.. but then again life is harsh - & if ur mother did hire a hitman to kill u where in Islam is it written to do that??
My ex-inlaws were planning to burn me alive, for my accidental death benefits - so do i go out and get someone to interview me about that too because trust me my story TOPS this one on every leap and bound & no Islam didnt have anything to do with it - Alhumdulillah if it werent for Islam, i wouldnt have been able to get out of tht hell hole -
some people here might disagree with me - but oh well!
I second what mysti said. the parents are at fault.
About the hitman - the police didn't take it seriously, there was no evidence to point towards it being true. All we have is this lady's word that her sister sent her a text to say her mum had hired a hitman to kill her.
Great headline, without substance.
I still think it's a great exaggeration. At the end of the day it was her decision to do what she does, if she want's to dress like a ho and dance in a wonderbra it's HER decision, but she wants to make song and dance about it so she mixes it with ISLAM.
i googled her...and only found pics in which she's almost nude. Had she been wanting to do this all her life? If she was expecting her parents to allow her to wear such clothes. they were exactly right with their strictness towards her.
A chilling read, and i personally think that some of it may not be true... it's just being said to justify her current actions. if it's all true, then her parents are loons.
....and i thought her name was familiar... she was on a programmes on Ch4 a while back, about trying to crack Bollywood.
I feel sorry for this woman. No one has the right to beat someone with a belt or anything. A parents hiring a hitman for their child. Astaghfirullah. This is one screwed up family. She's old enought to understand what she's doing. She is not a kid and is fully capable of making her decisions. They don't like her they can always disown her. They can break all contacts with her. They have be her parents but hell no do they have any right over HER LIFE. Her life was granted by Allah. Allah decides whether she lives or dies. No human being deicdes that. If a girl does not want to marry her brother ( cousin) that is her choice. Why the hell would you marry your own blood? I'm sorry but some of the things I read are sick. Does Islam really say get married asap?
This is England not a village in Pakistan where they can go around performing " honour killings or even intending to do so". On another note, Sofia is disgrace too ( I just googled some pics)
I second what khumar said.
