Re: My Mom and My Dad
I am not saying we are not responsible for what we say. I am saying that you need to find out the reason of those fights and focus on that.
Come on PCG, you are in medical field, right? Do you guys cure the cause or the symptoms?
Re: My Mom and My Dad
PCG- why do you want to add one more stress to your life, from what I understand you are overwhelmed as it is, write a letter, the same letter to both of them, noting what you see, how it affects you, and leave it at that.
A man isn't responsible for the crap that comes out of his mouth? Then my mom isn't responsible for the crap that came out of her mouth because that too was a reaction to my cheap chaachi.
Each and everyone you mentioned here are responsible.
In most families, there are fights and always there is fault on both the sides. It is hard for everyone to see their own shortcomings but easy to see others. Regardless of what university professors like you to believe, male and female brain does not see things in the same light, hence there will always be differences based on perception. Whatever, your mother tells your father, it is impossible for him to digest it as it is.
I have heated discussions with my better half at times because she wants me to see and interpret things like she does. I simply do not see the things the way she does. I am a firm believer that all this has to do a lot with our instincts.
Re: My Mom and My Dad
I'm not in the medical field, don't know who told you that. So that analogy was absolutely lost on me.
I am sorry to hear that PCG, but no where in your post its apparent that it was your dad's fault that fight happened. Why is that you need to talk to him only? Could it be that your mom change something that would reduce the frequency of the fights?
Process or willingness to initiate the process is more important then the method she picks.
Regardless what she thinks about men she is a smart person. SO along the way she would learn how to help parents resolve their issues.
Indulging her self into this is only going to do good to her. Some time helping ppl is helping your self.
and boss--I just took sentence out of context to start my post. I am not arguing.
Re: My Mom and My Dad
I know that you are not arguing Monk .. good points though..
PCG I thought you are in Medical field, my bad.
PCG I thought you are in Medical field, my bad.
acha hy boss eesy pata chal---eelag ker wany chaly jaty to.. u know....
I don't want to divulge details of the fight because you never know who knows you in real life and is reading your comments. I don't mind my life being an open book here but will probably spare my dad the shame of the crap that has come out of his mouth.
you are a good daughter