Re: My mistake, My Child's mistake
Successful parenting is to give the child a headstart from where you finished... Or thats what I have always heard my dad tell me and my sisters ...
He also says that if you are to make all the same mistakes that we made and THEN learn from it, then whats the difference between you and those unfortunate kids living off the streets ... they have no guidance , but you have tonns of it and not willing to use ...
Njgal, I feel telling them our mistakes may not help as much coz they have so many influencing factors from outside that will encourage them to make mistakes ... our job is to shelter them ... as much as possible... always have an influence on ones kids, influence through friendly bonds... or else the child will refuse to listen to you...
My parents never gave us the choice , eg smoking... dad sat me down and told me clearly , no matter what people do or say, its wrong and it wont be tolerated. a few days later he took me out for a walk and told me the downsides of smoking and to notice them in friends who do smoke ... this was done in a very friendly way ... clearly my dad had an influence over all three of us that along with the fear of letting him down that we never touched it Alhamudillillah.