I think the only question you have to ask yourself is do you love your husband and do you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
if so, there are many ways you can deal with some of the crap thats coming your way and learn to manage them effectively for the sake of the man you love.
Many of us go through lots of complications when newly married, after all its usually the girls that have to do with most of the adjustment.
My personal opinion has always been if anything in life is meant to be (like impending marraiges) then it should all go smoothly, however in your unfortunate case it seems as if it was showing signs of doom right from the engagement.
But don't let that put you off if you feel your marriage is worth working for, and it is continuos hard work, even for those of us who don't have all the added **** you have. If not, don't waste your life, end it sooner rather than later