How can I deal with my own situation if my boyfriend parents won't start anything!!!!
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this love shove is fazool thing. it is just attraction which will going to evaporate in one or two years of marriage even if your bf's parents and your parents agree on your rishta.
you need to forget it and face the real world.
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this love shove is fazool thing. it is just attraction which will going to evaporate in one or two years of marriage even if your bf's parents and your parents agree on your rishta.
you need to forget it and face the real world.
You Should Explain In Proper Heart Melting Way.....
Once The Heat Passes From The Body Dil Vil Pyar Vyar Will Be Throw In Dustbin !!
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Your 22, you still have a bit of time.
You were promised to your cousin from birth. Your father is making threats for you to marry your cousin. Let's say in an ideal scenario your boyfriend's parents come to your parents with a proposal. You parents say NO! because you already are getting married to someone else in their eyes. Then your no closer to where you want to be.
Is your boyfriend an only son?
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He has one younger brother
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Wait it out for a while.. you're young and you have time on your side.. you do need to deal with the cousin issue properly tho..
this love shove is fazool thing. it is just attraction which will going to evaporate in one or two years of marriage even if your bf's parents and your parents agree on your rishta.
Err no, not always..
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I might be exaggerated.
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Can you describe your father to me? His personality? Is he loving towards your brothers and sisters, your mother? Is he angry/explosive? Have your siblings also married cousins?
On your boyfriend. His parents will expect him to take care of them when they are older.
99% of the time, parents will reconcile with their son if he marries someone they don't accept. Especially because of the above. Your boyfriend is willing to marry you.
The wedding will suck if his family and/or your family don't attend but you will be together.
You have 4 choices:
Breaking up your boyfriend's arranged marriage, keeping your involvement a secret, breaking up your own arranged marriage, then having his parents come to yours.
Marrying your boyfriend without the consent of either family.
Marrying someone else of your choice who your parents may accept if your future arranged marriage is broken up.
Marrying Your cousin
Four is the easiest path, however if you have no feelings for your cousin and are not attracted to him, your going to be miserable and full of regret by the time your are 40. The pain you feel then may be the pain of regret, something far worse then what you have now. Read what some people who were forced into marriages at a young age write about the regret they feel about doing nothing if you don't believe me.
Choosing three will be hard for you. There are ways to break things up with your cousin since it looks like he will oblige. If you fall in love with someone else (and yes it might seem hard to imagine now, but if the relationship with your boyfriend does not work out, and you try dating or meeting men in your social circle, you might fall for one), you can marry them and be happy.
If you choose two, naturally your parents wont accept your marriage if its done in such an outrageous fashion. Still it is possible one or both family's will come around. In lots of the case, parents will emotionally blackmail you but when push comes to shove they accept your choice. Your their child, in a way your part of them. If a parent says they will never speak to you again, this is extremely unlikely to happen. Think of this. Some who marry whites obviously face rejection from their parents when they marry, but even their parents comes around.
One is the best scenario but it is also the unlikeliest. You'll have to do some really crazy things to make this work but nothing is impossible.
These are really your only options. Which are you leaning toward?
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I suggested you start breaking things with your cousin so that 3 and 1 could be options. Even if you can't marry your boyfriend, its still preferable to marry someone you love.
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It looks like you want everything delivered on a platter. You are not open with your cousing - just dropping hnts. Your boyfriend is ready to fight for you, but you dont want to piss off your father. Your father gives an immature threat and you fall for it. Your boyfriends parents wont consider you as their daughter-in-law and you wont consider marrying your boyfriend till parents from both sides are ready to accept your marriage - which you have clearly stated wont happen.
Life is about tough choices sometimes. If you and bf are sure this is not puppy love, wait till one or both of you is financially secure/independent, and then make your decision as adults. Now both of you are kids - not ready to give up something to get something.
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It looks like you want everything delivered on a platter. You are not open with your cousing - just dropping hnts. Your boyfriend is ready to fight for you, but you dont want to piss off your father. Your father gives an immature threat and you fall for it. Your boyfriends parents wont consider you as their daughter-in-law and you wont consider marrying your boyfriend till parents from both sides are ready to accept your marriage - which you have clearly stated wont happen.
Life is about tough choices sometimes. If you and bf are sure this is not puppy love, wait till one or both of you is financially secure/independent, and then make your decision as adults. Now both of you are kids - not ready to give up something to get something.
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OK - I am sure that helps OP a lot. Thanks
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It’s not that we are not ready to give up or not financially secure we both have good jobs . I respect my parents a lot and don’t want to do something immature and want to try my best to convince them.
@Keyboard_Stoker I am leaning toward 1 and 3 we will see where life will take me
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Alright, just act fast. Waiting and doing nothing will make everything worse as I'm sure you know.
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" I live in US and my love story started in the summer of 2009 in pakistan. We both became friends after we met then I came back to US and he went to london for studies after his high school. "
"When we don't talk to each other and try to forget eachother we go in to depression and our every day life becomes very disturbed and we both are studying too so it also effects that in a bad way"
"we both have good jobs ."
So you both are studying, he is 2.5 years out of high school, and you both have good jobs. I am confused. I am not being cruel - but you need to have your story straight.
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Yes he did high school/college from Pakistan and doing masters now. education system is different in Pakistan than here yes we have good jobs because we already have our bachelors degree.
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Ok - looks like you have a game plan. I like the fact you are being respectful to your parents and are sensitive to their feelings. That shows character. You will find a way to do the right thing by your parents/bf/yourself. Good luck.
Sorry if the doubts I raised caused any hurt.
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No problem I appreciate all of you taking your time and giving me your opinion about it. it means a lot to me.
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Yes he did high school/college from Pakistan and doing masters now. education system is different in Pakistan than here yes we have good jobs because we already have our bachelors degree.
ok. it looks mature love to me.
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You can turn this into a script for a drama. It can be the next Humsafar!