I don’t think that you should compare yourself to him, everyone moves at their own pace and eventually you’ll get there too. It’s not a race, Allah (swt) is looking at your heart, as long as that’s in the right place and you’re trying then there’s nothing more to worry about.
I get what you mean about the Mullah bashing but then you have to understand that countries especially like Pakistan have a lot of ‘fakes’ who will take money from people and make ridiculous claims which has made a lot of people wary of it all. If you feel like you’ve found a murshad (and he never asks for money, or possessions and does not make weird claims like chain your wife to the kitchen door) and** you feel peace there then don’t be affected by what people say. Haters gonna hate. Don’t worry about things like respect, I’ve noticed that people once truly enlightened have the world at their feet, people flock them, obviously once there’s light on someones face and once you leave everything to Allah (swt) then this world and materialism becomes subjective. It’s weird as soon as you realise how meaningless this world is, the world becomes yours. I’ve seen a lot of people go through this, but once they’ve got to that stage it all seems secondary to their real existence.
**Other than that I would follow Demesne’s advice, it sounds pretty solid. Move at your own pace, make sure you’re comfortable and make sure you and your husband are on the same page and keep deen and duniya balanced. Everything will work out for you soon in-sha’Allah 