A childs mother came to complain to me that my beta had slapped his beta .We argued for a good few minutes. i know my kid very well. He never hurts anyone. I bet the child must be lying or something. How do u deal with such situations where your tarbeeyat gets questioned?
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There is no way your tarbeeyat can be questioned for a slap or even a fight. Kids are kids and can do such things no matter how much tarbeeyat you give them.
You should have explained this to them and apologized too.
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pingu u r married 
I thot u r a kid urself
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K337, I've seen kids who are usually well-behaved sometimes act up or break the rules. It can happen to the best of us. Human nature isn't always in a constant state. I'm not accusing your child as I wasn't there to witness the incident....but then again...neither were you. It's possible that maybe your son hit this kid. It's possible that maybe the hitting was by accident. It's possible that the other kid is lying or confused. It's even possible that the mother of the other child is lying...(although....why would someone make this up). It all could be one misunderstanding. Perhaps you can talk to the teacher and see if she knows anything about this.
I think I would have told the other mother that "I'm surprised to hear this as my son is usually calm and well behaved. Thank you for letting me know and I'll talk to him and see what's going on." You can even ask the other woman to explain what happened or what she was told. You can call your son....and gently ask him in front of the woman if he slapped her son. Some parents may not agree with this strategy. But........being in the presence of the other kid's mother....can compel a child to confess to the misbehavior (if he's guilty). This is one reason why some parents prefer having their child present during a parent-teacher conference......as everybody can be on the same page...AND....it can decrease the chances of a contradiction. OR.......you can talk to your son in private........in a manner that doesn't scare him...and encourages him to tell what happened. If he's guilty....talk to him about his mistake. If he said he didn't do it......then still talk to him about being careful (hitting can be accidental) and how to manage conflicts with other children (such as telling the teacher, etc).
Kids are kids..........they learn more about life and what is wrong and right through making mistakes. Lecturing a child is not always enough....trial and error plays a role in internalizing lessons as well. The whole "questioning my tarbeeyat" is more an issue of your pride..........than it is about the problem at hand. It's more about (Gosh...this makes me look like a bad parent and reflects my parenting skills)....when neither parents nor children are perfect. Don't take it so personally. All kids make mistakes. What if tomorrow the teacher complained to you and said that your son is misbehaving or not on task? Some complaints are made out of concern or to seek and understanding/clarification...or to create awareness.....and not necessarily to hurt or attack one's pride. As a teacher, I've encountered parents who get very defensive when they hear complaints about their child. And I think to myself, "Gosh...as the adult and the professional, why would I make stuff up about a student? I have so much to do that I have neither the time nor the desire." Just talk to your son and get a clarification. Also, understand that young kids, in general, lack the maturity to see an issue clearly.
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agree with the rest of the postees.... kids are kids and who knows what limits they get pushed to when ur not around. And when parents arent around, they dont know how to deal with a situation either.
Speak with your child and ask him what happened. Dont yell at him or make him feel unloved.. listen to him and then see how you can handle the situation. If he indeed did slap, tell him how to better handle the situation
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There is always some space for improvement . It will be good to admit it and try to fix it , rather then being stubborn about it and let the problem grow .
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Yeah your kid came from above so why would he do such a nasty thing.. *barff
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Sorry but YOU are WRONG. You can never know kids enough. Kids are kids. They do things without analyzing the aftermath. They learn from each other the good things and not-so-good things. They hide things from parents too.
If you are trying to deal with the situation with pre-text that "my kid can not do it", you can "force" a solution but cant get one. Let couple of days pass and then talk to your kid in friendly manner. Ask him if he really slap the other kind and if he did what was the reason. Make him understand that getting physical with someone can not be justified no matter what. There are other avenues. And if your kid has not done it, just call the parent of other kid and let them know that you went though all this drill and this is what you think.
Just getting straight away into the argument with other parent is not the way to deal with it.
A childs mother came to complain to me that my beta had slapped his beta .We argued for a good few minutes. i know my kid very well. He never hurts anyone. I bet the child must be lying or something. How do u deal with such situations where your tarbeeyat gets questioned?
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i think just tell ur son that u know u shouldnt hit others right? just to be sure on both sides...that way u have disiplined him by not disciplining him...but just a word of caution...u dont know how children behave in different enviroments...he may have hit him he may have not...oh and its not about ur tarbeyat...denying it says more about ur tarbeyat than tackling it...