my-kid-is-better-than-urs-syndrome

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ive realised, that a lot of people my mothers age and above, suffer from such syndromes.. where there kid happens to be the best compared to every other grobby kid running around (fortunately or unfortunately my mama never suffered from that)

but, the sad thing is, i see this happening with new mothers of my genre.. these girls were sane girls prior to marriage.. or even before they gave birth. Lekin, as soon as they’ve had a child, no other kid matters..

i understand mothers love for a child, but when ur making another persons child unhappy in order to protect urs, isnt that wrong? i am probably a bit obsessive over kids i know, lekin who isnt? most of us love kids and hate seeing them being yelled at by grownups.. then how does this all change?

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oh gawd

i hated that growing up...all i herd was "she does all the housework, she reads namaz 5 times a day, she's so skinny and pretty" blah blah blah....i've forgiven my mother for it, but i don't think she still understands exactly how much that hurt me when I was a kid, and how it still carries over into (semi) adulthood..

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yeah my mum was like that, but then she was equally beautiful when i was ever down.. so it didnt bug me

what bugs me is young mothers not carign about other 2-3 yr olds feelings.. it makes me want to shake them and tell them "do u realise ur hurting a poor 2-3 yr old heart!! the kid is innocent for goodness sakes!"

an incident, a lil 4 yr old was making spit bubbles which unfortunately (as one does) fell on a one yr olds hands.. at this the mother of the one year old scolded the 4 yr old for making bubbles and threw a napkin-pls tantrum... for goodness sakes, the one yr old coudlnt careless and the 4 yr old is a kid.. she cant control her spit bubbles!

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its good for the kid :jhanda:

builds his/her confidence and self esteem

and what would u rather have? ur parents beating down on u all the time or praising u? (though ofcourse there is a limit)

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I refuse to believe that a tot needs to be scolded to build self-esteem

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abey where did i say that a kid needs to be scolded?? i said the kid needs to be praised

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^ oh.. sorries.. desi-misunderstanding took place

yeah, a kid should be praised, but at the same time another should be not be hurt

but i guess im more interested to know why a mother behaves this way

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jub tumhare honge tu dekhen ge :hoonh:

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I shall do no such thing :snooty:

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Oh gosh. My mom never does that. She reveals most of our mistakes infront of some people. And I hate that. I mean, I don't want her to do my jhooti tareefain but atleast not buraiyan you know. So my mom is opposite. Not that her kids do not deserve any tareefain. We are a shareef bunch of kids who don't ask for anything but oh well, I guess nothing satisfies moms that easily.

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^ my mum doesnt say a word full-stop.. she doesnt talk much amongst people.. the tareefein and criticising is just amongst the family… i prefer it that way :k:

i have a feeling we’ve gone on the wrong tangent.. khair koi baat nahin.. its Friday

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Haha. I have a good story to share.

So, my chachee developed a grudge against my sister and mother since her kids had wrecked our home when they came over once to visit.

The following summer at my uncle’s wedding, she (being a make-up artist/hairdresser), ruined my mother’s make-up (she looked like a witch, really), and yanked my sister’s hair so hard when styling it that my sister screamed…

Then immediately after the wedding, she proceeded to give a couple of galian to my sister when we had left her at my daadi’s house (where the chaachi was staying over). :hehe:

I somehow avoided it her wrath. :halo:

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my mother is like this. All I heard throughout my high school year was how all my friends are the angels sent from heaven and how I am a desi nigga wannabe. Simply because I wore baggy jeans. What the hell do they expect from me. Should I put on some low rider hip hugger.

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this thread HAS gone the wrong way

i wanted to discuss mothers with possessive obsessive behaviours

koi baat nahin... lagge raho

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sorry sadzz for ruining your thread. :blush:

ruuthay ho tum, tumko kaisay mana oo piya
bolo na bola na.

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yep i hate it when that happens. Its like what if someone else does that to your child then these mothers will know how it feels. It does hurt the child's feelings. The only time I do recommend it is when the child is all stubborn and spoiled and does not listen no matter how many times you tell them to stop or not do something while the mother is sitting there watching everything but doest not react as to what her child is doing.

The thread is moving towards the other topic about how your parents compare you to others lolz.

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wait, im confuzed :confused:
your chachi kids (your cousins) wrecked your home so your chachi hates your mother/sister? Or was it ur nieces n nephews who ruined her home?

why are chachi’s such witches :rolleyes:

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all chachis and jaitaanis are witches…the only one who isn’t is the heroine of the story…but more seriously, like seriously, jaitaanis enjoy seniority and greater closeness to daadis, whilst chaachis are younger than u, and so closer to hubbies, hateful enough for that…over time it all cancels out, unless one of the bros strikes rich and moves out…howcome we dont hear "nand’ ki kahanniyaan anymore… sb plz tell me… has the sister race died out, or all the women here are in the ‘nand’ ki positions??