My in laws

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How true!

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whats right is right…anytime someone gives an advice other than ‘run away’ , ‘leave the person’, ‘fight it out’…i always agree…:chai:

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an eye for an eye makes the world blind na?

if you study history you will find that those who would rise above abuse would ultimately be revered......

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Ok don't go over and wash the dishes??? i mean someone can deal with her being'off' with you but then your daughter....man she really doesnt like you...and as RV said somehow people respect those who treat em like dirt,...is not logical at all....i don't understand it but hey ho....therefore you should play the game

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Thanks everyone for your input. Very much appreciated

I suppose me giving them respect has in return made my husband respect me more and made my life easier in the fact that he has seen the efforts i have made with his family and the lack of respect i have received back. i wouldnt have got this if i showed attitude.

I have been good to them, the best i can, so that they accept me as a bahu but my efforts have not made them like me any better. but me staying quiet and not making remarks to their comments has in return given me the respect from my husband and therefore MIL has not been able to have a kick off with me about anything i may have said to her.

I will continue to show respect but to go there and start doing the housework, well im not going to be doing that anymore. its not worth it.

I suppose i didnt want my daughter to feel any negativity from them, but ur right i cant stop that. She isnt going to gain anything from them anyway. My parents never got us kids involved in any issues they wud have with people, we always were made to see the good in people, and thats what i want my daughter to be like aswell.

IA it'll all work out for the best

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^All the best girl :k:

My prayers are with you :slight_smile:

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Red Ruby did you not find out that your mother in law was doing black magic on you recently? or have I mistaken u for someone else?

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Just wondering where are your parents/siblings?? esp for the delivery and all were they not near you!

Good Luck, hope all will be well soon InshAllah. :)

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hi Colourful eyes

yes i did find this out and even though she did this i still showed alot of respect to her.

i dont have any regrets about my behaviour but i suppose i wanted my daughter to get some love from them. an adult can accept attitude towards them but what has a child done wrong.

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my family live around 3 hours away from me so they did not reach me in time. my husband was travelling back from work. my in laws were 10 mins away from me but they left me to deal with it.

its funny how so many things have happened and i dont know why i still want love from them. im going to stop exexpecting anythin from them from now on. should have learnt my lesson.

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You seem like you really have tried your hardest to make it work with ur Mil, but I remember u saying something about you and your daughter both being affected by the black magic, in which case I would honestly keep my distance from these people unless you really have to face them. If they are not treating your daughter with the same love then its best for you to keep her away from them otherwise it can do more harm than good for her.

I have read a few of your threads and seems like you haven't had the best of luck lately, but you seem to have your head screwed on properly and inshaAllah everything will work out. The main thing is you and your husband are strong, just dont let your mil come between the two of you.

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thanks colourful eyes. really appreciate your feedback.

I will be keeping my distance from now on. theyre not worth the hassle

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Why are in laws so terrible? gosh I hear nothing but bad things and I don't like my inlaws either

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I honestly feel your pain and it kinda sucks cuz you are doing so much for your in-laws.
But Im glad that your husband is taking your side and is with you.
Just stay true to yourself and have your husband's trust.
Good luck and may Allah(swt) ease your difficulties.
Ameen.

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see these type of stories i read .. they really scare the hell outa me .. i wish girls didnt have to get married .. n numerous members in teh in laws really really scare me .. big big familes .. o god ..