I had problem with my mother in law well she is in pakistan now but will be coming soon
my husband who use to love me alots and would always say to me dont ever leave me
but now he doesnt care if i leave him. its going to be 4 yrs of our marriage and we have a son
and i am 9 weeks pregnant right now…
for my husband i was a good wife to him when i was looking after his grandmother whom his mamoos and khalas didnt looked after… after her death my husband was ok too but now he is just acting so wired since i got pregnant i dont feel good and instead of understanding things he just complain and complain…
this pregnancy is going very hard for me i just ask him to give me love but no he isnt ready too… i cook him food iron his clothes i do all his work and dont even ask him to do anything except saying tht i plz just warm up the food in sehri urself and ea it urself i cant wake up coz i have a 2 and half yrs to look after and once i am awake for sehri i just cant go to sleep which was making me tired and yet he just complain about tht…no love no helpppppp no caringggggg…i am just so emotional and depressed in this pregnancy
my mother is sufferin from cancer and she is the only one who can look after me but she herself not well
i dont know wot to do for past 1 month i am doing sabr dont complain but i am just feeling so lonely depressed i dont feel like going out any where and i just dont feel like eating anythingg…just feel tireddd sleepy sick and no one to be with me…no friends no family no one…
just so depressed tht i dont feel like living but when i see my 2 and half yrs one it just calm me down tht i have to live for him to make him a good muslim…
i have been very strong my whole life but this pregnancy and my husband attitude toward me is killing me
need help wot should i do…? where should i go…? i dont know anything…
I assume you are from Pakistan - originally. As you are saying you don't know anything. I think you need to talk to your husband about his lack of love for you. I mean a marriage of 4 years does mean there must be some love and connection there. I would suggest you go to your doctors about your depression. Depression during pregnancy is a common thing. Often you feel deflated, not happy, everything seems dark and dismal.
It also seems you are going through a tough time - also with your mother. I really do feel for you. You have no friends who are girls? no one to talk to at all? it doesn't help that you are stressed and pregnant with a toddler and no help from your spouse - particularly with the soon arrival of your mother in law.
I suggest you talk to him, your doctor (about the depression) see if he can maybe tell you to go to some pregnant womens group so you can chat to other women in your situation. I don't know how you are feeling at the moment - if this is just passing or you truely want to leave your husband.
Being pregnant is a lot of stress on your body and you need your rest.. if he has hard time understanding that take him to your doctor's appointment and have the doctor explain him everything. Why has your husband's attitude changed towards you? Is he living a stressful life? It's definately not good for baby's health for you to be in such stressful condition.
awww…dont worry maybe its just ur harmones that have made u extra sensitive towards ur husband’s attitude?or he might be worried about something like an office or financial issue!
Has his attitude changed or could it be that the toll of the pregnancy, a 2.5 year old child, an ill mother and ramzan have all something to do with how you are feeling?
oh, pls dont take tensions , Allah is with u dear dont worry at all................pray a lot and wat problems do u have with ur mother in law?
is ur husband have friends wat kind of friends did u ever met his friends ? or wat abt any female friendS?? did u notice him these days he is always busy on phones? mobiles? NET or any other kind of activities????
its not hormones firenze, so her mum siffering from cancer, her husband not being supportive and looking after a toddler while preg and tired, if shes stressed because of these things its hormonol.....?>
MAHNOOR-go docs, where do u live, ?
PRAY TO GOD, talk to husband please.rationally.he sounds like a *****,but maybe he doesnt know it..maybe its unintentional..
plz dont b depressed becz it will affect ur baby ... and i wanna knw which kind of care u want frm ur husband i didnt get wat do u mean ? yeah plzz pray and inshALLAH everything will b fine plzzz think about ur self and ur baby ....
maybe its just ur harmones that have made u extra sensitive towards ur husband’s attitude?or he might be worried about something like an office or financial issue!