My 'How do you' question

[Miss_Mohabbat]

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@Fayz

Miss Mohabat, how about you invite me or you come here..we will save the postage…
I liked what you said though…god should make more intelligent women like yourself. As far as seeing one’s self is concerned…fashion should come way down in the priority list. however, it shouldn’t be neglected.

Stop being such a cheapskate, I would much rather you post them, my postman is quite the pretty boy and I have not seen him in a while, it would be nice to catch up innit.

[sadzzz]

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someone on the first page gave perfect advice.... compliment her on the way she is now and then tell her what u think will make her look even better.... works really well :)

[S02]

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^ i don't know, i think the more insecure of us would focus on the bad, and ignore the good.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Fayz

Mehnaz..careful choice of words are the tricky part and one could never be too careful. I have concluded women don’t wanna hear it..unless I hear otherwise in this thread.
Mywish, let’s say I don’t like your hair style :-D..how should I express myself (other than going ot hell)
Aisha, how could you look away from beauty..perfection would only enhance it.

maybe you can say…“hmm i wonder how you would look if you did yor hair this way”

[hayaa]

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I don't see why a simple, "I think this style/thing would look good on you" shouldn't suffice. It's not condescending and indicates interest/concern.

[nia_khan]

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how would i want my man to approach me- I can guarantee you that wont be a situation with me and him :D

Lets say if i do - I would want him to take me out and simply talk to me. Take me for shopping and while i am approaching towards dull or light colors he suggests a bright one. Something that he likes and say for example in punjabi] he can say "soneyo tade te ey zeyada jache ga" - believe me i would smile and do sharmyaing sharmaying. Show me attention ask me to try it while he is waiting outside of the fitting room.
And i think buying victoria secret TOGETHER is such a great and fabulous idea.

Another situation could be - just takes me out on a dinner and when we come home he has a present for me. A huge bag of victoria secret *wink on our bed *grin. and while i am opening it comes and start talking to me.

Another situation - Takes me out for the weekend far away. And while i am in his arms says something simply beautiful and makes me smile. And tell me what he would want.

bubble bath is also another way to get your point across......

girls like romance :D If your wife isnt wearing somethign nice or attractive its probably she feels you dont pay enough attention at her.

I seriously think husband and wife's love should grow instead of decreasing after shadi..

[skhan]

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@nia_khan

I seriously think husband and wife’s love should grow instead of decreasing after shadi..

How absurd, women these days

[sadzzz]

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@nia_khan

how would i want my man to approach me- I can guarantee you that wont be a situation with me and him

Lets say if i do - I would want him to take me out and simply talk to me. Take me for shopping and while i am approaching towards dull or light colors he suggests a bright one. Something that he likes and say for example in punjabi] he can say “soneyo tade te ey zeyada jache ga” - believe me i would smile and do sharmyaing sharmaying. Show me attention ask me to try it while he is waiting outside of the fitting room.
And i think buying victoria secret TOGETHER is such a great and fabulous idea.

Another situation could be - just takes me out on a dinner and when we come home he has a present for me. A huge bag of victoria secret *wink on our bed *grin. and while i am opening it comes and start talking to me.

Another situation - Takes me out for the weekend far away. And while i am in his arms says something simply beautiful and makes me smile. And tell me what he would want.

bubble bath is also another way to get your point across…

girls like romance If your wife isnt wearing somethign nice or attractive its probably she feels you dont pay enough attention at her.

I seriously think husband and wife’s love should grow instead of decreasing after shadi..

awwwwww very well said…

[Chloe_Sullivan]

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aww Nia, isn't that the cutest approach ever suggested. You are such a romantic, it's cute to see someone who is so in love.

[KashmiriRainDrops]

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I agree nia_khan, romance is good! As long as one of u is romantic, it keeps the boat rocking ;) Guess i'm lucky cos my fiance is really romantic whereas, i kinda hate all that mushy stuff all the time...and, with time love in marriages shud increase.

Back to the topic...Fayz, i guess it depends on the woman, as u can see from the variety of replies here...but actually not all women are sensitive...in fact some guys in my family are more sensitive then the girls...just depends i guess...it's cute how ur so interested about keeping ur woman happy! :DI can't speak for all women, but me personally, i don't get offended at all...it's meant in a good way rite, as long as ur not saying it in an abusive way then, i perceive it as constructive...and hey, at least someone is concerned enough to care about me and give suggestions...i try to see the real reason y someone wud be telling me something like that, rather than get on their case about how they phrased it...the intention shud be nice, all else is fine with me :)

[nia_khan]

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skhan looks like your boat doesnt rock?

thanks rest... Love is awesome isnt it :~) - i should make him read this thread shuldnt i :D

[MYwish]

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fayz if you have to tell me that you don't like my hair style, just point out towards and actress on the tele and say that you love her hair stylke, if the lady is sensible she'll take the hint, plys you can always book her a makeover as a treat or a gift and she'd love it.

[Minerva]

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Fayz, don't say anything, plz. When would men learn to compromise and let go of things... sigh BTW, place yourself in her shoes and let us know how would you feel or what would your reaction be if you are told to change something about your self...;--)

main nay tow sensitive men bhi daikhay hain :--D

Waisay,(assuming you are the righteous one here) if she is a friend then you can tell her. If she is 'someone special' (kadown aiga ow din) even then you find a way to knock in some good sense in her. Otherwise, stay away :-)

[lastknightess]

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Well if she's someone who trusts your opinion then just tell her gently, straight forward approach, she may make a face or two but she'll respect your honesty.