my friends lives closeby, and was upset today, shes married and is soon moving home. she lives with her inlaws too. they are in the process of furnishing the house that they will soon move into etc. anyway, my friend overheard her MIL telling her daughter that both mil and daughter wil go shopping for the house stuff for the lounge, drawing room bedroom etc,
now the daughter is married and lives elsewhere.
shouldnt her mil have said this to her? shes going to be living in that house not the daughter.
anyway, friend said this is normal behavious she is usually excluded anyway by her mil, her mil is fine to go shopping with her own daughter, but wont go withdaugher in law.
Blog ke baray me kabhi suna hai? Dont you think your mother in law's stories were enough for us to digest that now we have to hear your friend's MIL horror stories too? Or you are just bored and couldnt think of anything against your own dear MIL
anyway she asked me if its normal that shes upset by this. i dont think im the right person to answer her. so i asked here.
I'm married and my mom would ask me about house decor rather than my SIL. And I wouldn't think it weird. Mom and I would go shopping for mom's house decor and it would not be weird.
My MIL can ask her daughters instead of me for that house decor. I wouldn't care. I don't live there, and even if her daughters don't either, I don't care. It's not like I'm being excluded from decorating MY house. I live separately. Your friend will too. She should show interest in what they bring back and whether she likes it or not, the** prudent thing to do** would be to say it is great. What difference does it make? She won't live there. And a white lie will make her position better in the house.
Thanks Nadz. You help even “the nicest ones” on here bring about their real selves. No wonder they love to bash you. More thanks to you they just reveal the real them.
Learn to pick your battles. At least while your marriage is still young. You don't mess with people who have some form of control over your life, you just wait it out.
^ I think he has got used to it since long ago. Imagine a woman crying over how her maasi doesnt like to wash her DIL's undergarments. No wonder Nadz is all complaints against her.
I don't think that your friend you should take it personally. I am sure the mother in law didn't have any ill intentions, it's just that she must be more comfortable going with her own daughter. It's a matter of comfort level. For example, I would be more comfortable going shopping with my own sister, rather than my sisters in law. But that doesn't mean I have anything against them.
Issi liye tou badgumaani ko gunah kaha gaya hai. Because you make assumptions, which can easily be wrong.
she has a filter and reads only what she wants to listen/see !