I don't get it. On one hand, everyone is preaching about how there should be understanding, compatibility between two people if they want to have a happy life. On the other hand, if a girl does find compatibility in a guy and develops an understanding with him, then its wrong.
The next thread will probably go like this. "Nazia" wanted to marry some XYZ guy cuz she really liked him but her dad wouldn't listen. She now has a proposal of a great guy and her dad is in favor of it but she doesnt know him v well and doesn't want to marry him.
The responses would be: I can't believe people still live in stone ages where they enforce their will on their daughters. There should be understanding, compatibilty between the people before they marry............... She can do SO much better... please tell the guy to get lost!!
A mature person gets into a relationship with the full trust and expectations of their parents, anything else and they are setting themselves up for hurt and disappointment and wasting the time of the person.
THAT means for example if your family won't accept a "xyz" bahu under any circumstances, but only "abc" then why waste your time with miss abc?
Likewise I won't get into a relationship with a gora and expect my parents to be hunky dory about it. Life isn't a damn bollywood movie or tv show where everything works out for the best.
When the next thread comes, we'll deal with it then.