Naikoo I read T.Ds interview in a local newspaper …I think she wrote the book herself
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(hopefully).
Who says nothing is impossible? I’ve been doing nothing all my life!
Naikoo dont freak out on me
I have this, call it good or bad habit, to read books i like over and over again
Dunno why
there is not a book in my collection that i have just read Once
This is only Feudal Lord that i have read bout eleven ten times
Wanna know how many times i have read A tale of two Cities?
more then fifty times
yeah the same book over and over
Pride of Prejudice
bout twenty times
Rain maker by John Grisham
Ten times
Not without my Daughter
bout twenty five times
the list goes on and on
I discovered very early that reading once doesnt give me satisfaction
i have to read it again and again
Hum Sa, you think she'll admitt that:)
Anchal patooti, i am not freaking out on ya bava....i am just envying you here. You know for me its always like that...too much stuff to read and not enuff time....and here u r reading the same book again n again....
wud u believe i bought "Sophie's World" six months ago, and its still lying there on my desk waiting for me to pick it up...every time i think of going to the desk and picking it up, some other book comes out to seduce me....sighz....and i have to tell "Sophie's World", "honey i'll read after Geisha's diary", "Oh sweety give me some more time, i promise i'll read u after Moth smoke".....Sighz @ my promises....
...and Pride N Prejudice, well i liked that book too when i read it ages ago:) but 20 times....WOWWWWWWWWW....
u r so lucky that u can read ur fav books again n again n again n again....:)
PS. hey how many times u have read Razia Butt's "Shermeeli"??? 100 times???
I dont know how missed that book, I would try to get that here somehow? But I think besides, Khar’s erratic behavoir, women just feel for him as he was so smart, u cant blame Khar alone
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I loved Pride & Prejudice book as well as the movie (A&E and BBC combined production).
Just finished reading the book. It is awful what one human being can do to the other. Many aspects of this book have been discussed but for me Khar's mum's extreme abuse of his only surviving sister stands out. Maybe his mother was responsible for his brutal and mean behavior towards women in his life. The mother in turn was merely practicing what she was taught, that is to hate and dispise her own sex. All this is very sad.
I hold society responsible for the brutal treatment of 'Tameena', Khar is the product of a society which treats women as slaves and sub human-beings.
The attitude of the society towards women have to change if we want to live in a healthy and productive society which treats women as human beings.
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My wife wanted to know about Arabs and Pakistanis (becuase she is European) so she collected & read all the books ... like My Feudal Lord, Rape of Kuwait, Pricess of Arabia (Jean Sasson) etc etc & I got the chance to read all of them. Most of them are written not as true stories but in anger as revenge against the people or against the society. Same rule applies to My Feudal Lord ... auther is biased here because she is angry with (1) One man, Khar (2) Feudal Society & (3) Pakistani political system. So my conclusion is that the book is not 100% right but I would say 70% is right.
BTW, Sabah mentioned really good point I have to agree with her.
Same rule applies to My Feudal Lord ... auther is biased here because she is angry with (1) One man, Khar (2) Feudal Society & (3) Pakistani political system. So my conclusion is that the book is not 100% right but I would say 70% is right.
Most books r written from the writers point of view and their experiences, your accessment of 70% correct still makes book very close to the reality. The book is more about the status of women more than anything else.
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My wife wanted to know about Arabs and Pakistanis (becuase she is European) so she collected & read all the books ... like My Feudal Lord, Rape of Kuwait, Pricess of Arabia (Jean Sasson)
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I am sure reading these would have given her a great understanding of the positive aspects of our culture!!
These books were written as you rightly say by scorned women, not exactly giving your wife a true picture of life for many Arab/Asian women who are content with their family and husbands.
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Mariah,
Thats true ... so I to show her the true picture I took her to an Arab country for a nearly a month ... and then she realized what exactly arab culture is. The book doesn't represent the culture it only represent the culture of particular class of culture. Anyway, my wife is not very much impressed by these books.
Rani,
These books dont represent the status of woman in that culture ... as I said to Mariah, the book reprents the particular class of the culture and the status of women in that class. Secondly it depends upon individuals as well & authors are individuals as u mentioned the book is written by the authors point of view so how do u know author is not lying?
Cherio.
Just finished reading My Feudal Lord (I believe there is an Urdu version too called, "MaiDa Sa'eeN"?)--which I read straight thru' not sleeping at night!!--and I found it a fascinating book but also it left me with mixed emotions and ambivalent feelings.
Although Khar came across as a despicable and evil man--the scene where he rapes her in prison after she has had uterus operation!; the scene where he forces her to strip naked after beating her like an animal and call her parents; the scene where he forcibly ducks his little girls head in the bath water...etc.--but he is probably no more or less evil than many of the other politicians/waderas in his position. That in itself is a scary thought...
Though Khar was evil and utterly despicable yet Tehmina also came across as either incredibly naive--she left him and came back to him 4 times despite his constant battering of her!--or as a greedy, insecure woman who actually wanted the attention which he got her in the press and in the high-society of Pakistan. As Mrs Khar she was something and it seemed to me that she couldn't let go of the high-life...
Having said that the strictures on women in our culture are manifold and on women from the wadera class are magnified; they live in guilded prisons whereas I think given her own liberal and affluent background she was by her nature a bird which would not be happy caged; and of course, Khar's mercilesss mental and physical torture terrified and I think broke her will somewhat.
In many ways I think the villain of the piece was apart from Khar, the feudal system itself and the hypocrisy of Pakistani society and also, in particular, her beautiful younger sister, Adila--what a bitch! (Though if we consider that he first seduced her when she was only 13, it is possible that this would have had a deep psychological effect on her subsequent life..). Tehmina's mother also did not come across well although her grandmother did as did her father.
This book was in many ways a brave book too because despite her own priveleged position--coming from one of Pakistan's most influential aristocratic families--(which allowed her the luxury of knowing that people would read about her life; obviously if she had been a poor working class girl no one would want to read her book)--she writes candidly about quite a lot of things which were an eye-opener for me about how our "elite society" lives. She candidly admits to having illicit sex with Khar while she was still married (to the poor guy Anees) and also that she drank wine etc. Her sister also seemed a bit of a slut sleeping around with loads of guys...
I think it would be revealing if a third-person, an academic, was to write a critical biography of her with Khar as it would be more balanced but still this is a fascinating social study.
Finally Khar should be killed for being a traitor--he was actively trying to defeat Pakistan's army with Indian help just so he could regain political power. And this book makes it so clear that for these feudals their own personal well-being comes well before that of the country...
Overall a book definitely worth reading!
I admit I havent read everyones replies....but isnt everyone missing a vital point here....they both deserved each other is there much difference between her running away with khar and him romancing her younger sister....I d say its a classical case of jau karo woh bharo
..but the book was a good read.....
- We cannot change anything until we accept it..condemnation doesnt liberate, it oppresses...CGJung...*
Islo K.A.
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Salim bewafa nahi hai
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I think this Tehmina is lucky to be gifted with ability to write & get the oppertunity.
There are bad people like Khar all over the world & intelligent girls who dont want to be victimised dont make such risky choice knowing he has 3 other 'namuna 'wives already .But being Tehmina the heroine who says to herself “i can handle anything ,i am just too good ,i can bunjie jump” So she jumps & gets hurt & finds out she is too timid for the rocks like KHAR , & now she is crying.Now only if she was illiterate ‘hira mandi’ wife ,she would not have had the lucky oppertunity to garnish loads of sympathy from Aanchal & co .
Btw .she will be more popular b/c cunningly she has wrapped herself with the Pakistani Flag by writing a biography on mr.& Mrs Edhi saheb voluntary work .That sure will make her ‘fatima zehrah’ in the eyes of the naive & gullible Pakistani
aap se bhii khuubasuurat aapake a.ndaaz hai.n
aap kii aa.Nkho.n me.n kuchh mahake hue se raaz hai
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Btw .she will be more popular b/c cunningly she has wrapped herself with the Pakistani Flag by writing a biography on mr.& Mrs Edhi saheb voluntary work .That sure will make her 'fatima zehrah' in the eyes of the naive & gullible Pakistani
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recently I saw this documentary on her, with a gilr from heera mandi , who is allegedly khars sons wife, who threw acid on her, and now tehmina D is paying for her plastic surgery in Athens..though I salute her extremely naik gesture, some how, I agree with FYI..the lady is tooooo slick to be just 'naik'...she obviously has got sth up her sleeve
- We cannot change anything until we accept it..condemnation doesnt liberate, it oppresses...CGJung...*
Rani is not coming back to read 1 year old post but for others
“Most books r written from the writers point of view and their experiences, your accessment of 70% correct still makes book very close to the reality. The book is more about the status of women more than anything else.”
What is PUBLISHED is the point of view of very few able to write in english writers .There are millions of happy couples ,who due to lack of time & talent do not write about the blissfull life they lead ,Then some dark horse comes & coincidently MORE because of her own personality ‘played around with FIRE & gets burnt’ ,& B/C she can write chooses to CASH in on it developing the “victim-role” martyr syndrome ,there by distorting the sense of proportion 'skewing the impression in the wrong direction.
I know Rani relished in this book for whole year quoting it as if it was koran for her.Lol
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As a club to bash pakistan-muslim& Islam
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aap kii aa.Nkho.n me.n kuchh mahake hue se raaz hai
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