What do you mean by “crystal clear?” Is it crystal clear boundaries or expectations or communication? Maybe that’s part of the problem. It’s important to be clear about things, but are you perhaps putting too much pressure on people to be “clear” ? For example, could you be over-analyzing their comments…and asking them to clarify themselves for each and everything? Doing this frequently (IF you’re doing this) can become frustrating for the other person. It’s good to seek clarification sometimes…and other times you need to develop a tougher skin/chambri and try to move on because we all make mistakes.
“Create emotional relationships”??? What does that mean? ALL relationships involve emotions (both positive and negative). “With people whom you pass”…???..do you mean that you from strong attachments to people in passing…or people that you don’t know very well? In that case, be stronger. You don’t know them well enough to take their comments and behavior too seriously.
You’ll have to make your post more “crystal clear” for us, so that we can understand the problem. I will tell you that…your experiences make you stronger. Some things which bothered me years ago don’t bother me as much now. You just develop tougher skin with time and try to learn from your mistakes.
For example, if someone has hurt you in the past…then learn from the experience. Don’t get too close to that person in the future or be careful how much trust you place in someone. That’s all I can suggest until you expand on your post.