My emotions

Lifestyle Relationships
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Dear friends please help me.

I have been so emotional and sensitive. I see everything from an emotional point of view and finally get hurt. I want everything crystal clear. This thing is inherited to me from my parents.

When it comes to relationship matters, I create emotional relationships unintentionally with the people whom I pass some times and if in this relationship something happens bad/wrong then it hurts me so badly.

What is this?

Please help me.

what should I do?

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Re: My emotions

What do u do? I mean as a profession...

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Re: My emotions

See a shrink

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Re: My emotions

Bhai meray, all the relationships are emotional ones, there is no such thing as logical relationship.

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What exactly do you mean by that? Do you mean when you walk past sum 1 and u talk to them? Or people who hav come into your life n have gone?

If its the first thing i said, Then thats a problem i dont think anyone on GS can help you with. However if its the second thing i said then you form relationships in life and some people r sensitive and it hurts them badly and cant get over it for years and years some people can jus get over it n move on str8 away. Its life and you have to deal with it.

But i dont think you shud let it take over your life, Dont believe everything everyone tells you!! If your in a relationship try not to give all of your-self too quickly, Giv it time to see if this person will be there for you in the long run.

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What do you mean by "crystal clear?" Is it crystal clear boundaries or expectations or communication? Maybe that's part of the problem. It's important to be clear about things, but are you perhaps putting too much pressure on people to be "clear" ? For example, could you be over-analyzing their comments.........and asking them to clarify themselves for each and everything? Doing this frequently (IF you're doing this) can become frustrating for the other person. It's good to seek clarification sometimes.......and other times you need to develop a tougher skin/chambri and try to move on because we all make mistakes.

"Create emotional relationships"???? What does that mean? ALL relationships involve emotions (both positive and negative). "With people whom you pass"...........????............do you mean that you from strong attachments to people in passing....or people that you don't know very well? In that case, be stronger. You don't know them well enough to take their comments and behavior too seriously.

You'll have to make your post more "crystal clear" for us, so that we can understand the problem. I will tell you that....your experiences make you stronger. Some things which bothered me years ago don't bother me as much now. You just develop tougher skin with time and try to learn from your mistakes.

For example, if someone has hurt you in the past......then learn from the experience. Don't get too close to that person in the future or be careful how much trust you place in someone. That's all I can suggest until you expand on your post.

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Re: My emotions

I see a great deal of insecurity in your post. Given that, its typical that you would prefer everything to be black and white, instead of what it really is: gray. You should try and accept that not everything in life is going to work out the way you want, and that includes relationships, emotional and physical. Idealism is frequently a good thing, but can quickly become detrimental when it starts to interfere with normal functioning. Once you can accept that there are certain things that are out of your control, and that more often that not, it has nothing to do with you, you might think it unnecessary to take things so personally.

It seems like you're a very emotional person, if you cant, or don't want to change that, maybe you should make a concerted effort to work on turning that aspect of your personality into a plus, rather than letting it detract from your overall quality of life.

My unsolicited advice.