I have been engaged for 1.5 years now. Me and my fiance live in the same city. It is a arranged rishta. We will get married after 2.5 years.
In the beginning he started messaging me and we chatted alot.
But now we message each other at special occasions and after 2-3 weeks.
And those messages are so predictable now. It is difficult for me to find things that we can discus with each other.
Advise?
What should I do?
I am not a chatty person.
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Why dont you make an effort with him for a change? Text him asking how his day was.
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Yes, you need to show that you're taking the initiative to build your relationship , not only him!
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@ Gaia en MkD
Sometimes I message him and sometimes he
But it is like we have nothing to discuss
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talk about movies, food, tends etc
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*You don't have to have some serious discussions. Tell him all about your day and ask about his! *
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Umm.. talk about the wedding? Your future? what u plan to do when you both marry? Ask him about his hobbies? likes n dislikes? tastes in music? his fav food? fav films?
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Save it all for the married life .
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Hand him over to me. I have lots to discuss. As I am intelligent.
Ditto! Or else married life will also be boring…oh wait! It WILL be boring 
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Samia,you seem like someone who really doesn't know what to talk about or how to make a conversation flow. You can't change the way you are but you can only try to a certain extent. I just hope you can overcome this problem.
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Why not invigorate the conversations with topics that arouse curiosity such as discussing Imperialist British East India Company's trade routes eh? Gets my talks going all the time.
Topics to discuss
Benazir Bhutto's college essays
Allama Iqbal's choice in pens
Mother Terresa's perfume collections
And last but not least Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan's rhythmic voice formulas described in calculus.
Enjoy:D
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U know the majority of communication between people in general is nonverbal :)
but i agree with what everyone has said, ask him about his day, talk about your day, anything funny, exciting, or embarrassing thing happened, a movie you say and what you thought about it, discuss your future. Girls like to talk about themselves more, so just talk to him about anything and everything, since he is the one you insha'Allah plan to spend your life with. Also that just might get him going to start telling you stuff as well :)
There are tons of things to talk about. Just beacuse you are engaged does not mean you only have to do lovely dovely converstaion. You can talk about current affairs, politices, philosophy, religion, fashion, home prices, car models, fashion models and everything under the sky. Talk to him like you talk to your friends.
How mean, idiot
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Thanks for replies
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i think ur not the kind of person who can start blabbering rite from the get go ... so just take some time in getting use to making conversations ... start by smsing him everyday that hey g'morning i hope u have a nice fun day ... that sorta thing ... and at nite time hey my day was busy/fun/tiring/gr8/not that gr8 or wat have u and hope you've had a good/better than my day g'nite sweet dreams ... and that way he'll reply u back with something good .... after a couple of days of this just msg him randomly that oh i'm getting lunch or buying this or that any suggestions ... and just start talkin this way ... then move on to callin and ease into things ... hope this helps :D
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If you don't mind my asking, why such a long engagement period? That's part of the problem. You are not actually sharing any experiences, so you have little to talk about. It's hard to make up stuff out of thin air, and everything you say feels artificial. Even married couples are encouraged to go out and do stuff together, in order to maintain the relationship.
Do you guys go out together, maybe chaperoned?
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Ditto ^
If you must, talk about your day to day happenings, ask how his family is doing, what he is doing over the weekend, etc etc etc.