It will be painful for him but you cannot force someone to stay or someone to love. Best thing to do is to move on and find someone that is deserving of his love.
I don't think she just left for the money, perhaps she was not too pleased with a husband that spent all his free time with her and did everything to please her.
HA! Then women are entirely confusing in this regard. My good man I am better of eating a patunia fruit plant than marrying a woman. I shall take my business else where. Wears 19th century gentleman's hat...walks off
Your brother should be thankful to Allah, remember , he knows what's best for his people!
As you say your brother is a very good human being and inShAllah he will find someone who will care and love for him equally:) Tell him to divorce her, and let that woman be free why keep such dirt associated with your name?? :)
We are here to respond to the person with their own concern. Sure, there’s more to it, but right now I don’t think best option would be to say “oh your brother must be a horrible person too”.
Of course he lacks confidence, being heartbroken, depressed and his life has fallen apart and he blames himself because he wasn't rich enough! Or he didn't do enough? This was done to him not by him there is a difference. No way do I say he needs to autonomous at all, I say that he needs build himself up through love and support. He should feel all the stages of grief because the death of marriage but blaming himself will lead to his destruction.
My brother went through a horrendous divorce, he was devastated and we supported him, but not once, not even once did he blame himself because he knew that this was done to him and not by him! Buddy!!!
lacks confidence? ugh, seriously buddy, anyone going through smtng like this would totally break apart regardless of confidence, selfesteem and all that non-sense. We are human beings. Our society needs to stop treating people like robots.
Ya know Allah SWT has his way of testing all of us. This might be his test as ya're saying he has been very sweet to his wife. Anyway, as everyone here said. Let her go as she wasn't worth to him to begin with. Allah will give him much better wife in the future. But this is trauma for him..for now. Just listen to him and give him good suggestions. He needs to speak to someone whom he trusts a lot. Insha'allah i'll pray for him.
She is a gold digger. And i know a gold digger when i see one. Your brother is too good for her. Even if she came back and got down on her knees your brother shouldnt take her back and people like her dont change - the ones that say they do arent genuine (especially after doing what she did with him). He deserves better and inshallah there will be something better down the road for him. But for now he will be bitter and tbh just have a hard time trusting women in general. You just need to be there listen to him and reassure him.
I don't know if it is a Cultural tabu but no one recommended any Treatment via Medical advancement is the field of Psychology and Psychiatry -Muslims were the first to considered these conditions as a branch of Medicine and came up with the treatment of depression and other disorders related to nervous system- --- like Muslims were the first to Isolate the infectious patients in different Tents ( now there are Hi-tech Isolation rooms to prevent spread) where times when people with severe depression--confusion--dementia--PTSD were thrown stones at ( I think still in some countries around the world cruel people throw stones and they leave them abandoned on streets) calling Pagal--Crazy --- I think a Good anti-depressant or Mood stabilizer along with good psychotherapy with family and friend support he can over come his difficulties-
I am so sorry for what you guys are going through. I pray that your brother starts feeling better soon.
May I ask what the reaction of your bhabis immediate family is? I mean do they support her?
@ bad shah
Her family consists of just a frail mother and a brother. Her bhabhi literally controls her husband and due to this they have very limited contact with my bhabhi as my bhabhi's bhabhi does not allow her husband to interact with his sister [my bhabhi]. Bhabhi's mother was told by my aunt on the phone but she can't do anything..too old and frail. My bhabhi's bhabhi has found an excuse to taunt her MIL and know my bhabhi's brother has cut off ties with heis sister bcoz he has no izzat left in front of his already controlling wife's family.
My bhabhi has a sister too but we have never seen her or met her as she lives in Norway...we don't know her reaction. And the father died years ago.
